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She wants to be friends but I can't just care about her as a friend!

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Question - (10 June 2012) 3 Answers - (Newest, 11 June 2012)
A male United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Well, for two months me and this girl have talked and Ive been taing things really slow. eery moment with her has been amazing and i can tell she feels the same connection. She has admitted that she has aa crush on me, and lately she has grown into me. She also admitted that she has somebody, she's single but taken. reason being that they been through alot and they just never really cared to put a title but she's practically taken. At first, i was discouraged to continue talking to her but i started liking her. so just this past week we hung out and i wrote a poem for her and after the poem we hugged tight and it turn into a kiss. we kissed a minute long and it just felt so right, the next two days we stopped talking. i texted her on the second day saying that we cant just be friends because i see her as more than a friend. i told her we should stop talking because i didnt want my feeling to grow, if she still ha somebody. she was sad but understood and tried to convince me to stay friends but i said i couldnt. she told the other guy about the kiss already. now we dont talk, and were graduating highschool in two weeks. i miss talking to her and being around her. I really thought she was perfect cause every moment with her was perfect. what should i do? how should i feel? i still want her!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2012):

I don't think you should give up so easily.

She did kiss you... So she has to see you as a little more than a friend.

If I had to make a guess, she wouldn't reject you if you asked her out. She is probably just scared about losing your friendship and that is what will happen if you continue doing what you are doing now.

Please just tell her you want more and ask her if she will do that.

She was probably more upset because you gave up on her..

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A female reader, BondGirl72 United States +, writes (11 June 2012):

BondGirl72 agony auntI agree...there is no way you can remain friends after that. From my own experience and seeing how the relationships of others pan out, I do not believe men and women can just be "friends" anyway. Someone always has stronger feelings/sex gets involved. I supposed you could be acquaintances, but that is about the extent of anything male/female. If she was really into her guy, she wouldn't be talking to you. Just think, if she really did like you, she could be talking to another "friend" behind your back. I would find someone who wants a relationship. All of this girl/guy being friends stuff never works in my opinion.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2012):

There is no way anyone can remain friends after that, you just can't see her the same way as a friend again.

I know cuz I was in that same position. But for me, the girl and I dated for a month before she told me she just wants to remain "as friends"

But anyways, you can't control how you feel cuz it is what they call "unconditional love." you didn't plan to love her but it just grew to you.

Well, you will regret not taking your chance to be with her, so tell her how you really feel about her and ask her to give you a chance to be with her. You never know, she could actually be the love of your life.

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