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writes:Very confusing for me...So two weeks ago, I asked my friend of 4 years if she wanted to take our relationship to the next level. She said she likes us the way we are - friends.Last weekend, my friends and I went on a retreat - she was there. During the trip she was pretty flirty - linking arms, spending more time around me than usual, she even briefly sat on my lap. Is she reconsidering? Am I misinterpreting the signs? Am I over-thinking this?I'm moving to the other side of the country and she held me very tightly towards the end of the trip and told me "I didn't realize how much I'll miss you".What do I do?Thanks in advanced, everyone.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (9 June 2010):
 She could secretly just like feeling that you're attracted to her, she could have been re-thinking her answer or maybe she could just like flirting, especially now because its more meaningful or forbidden... or about a gazillion other reasons...
Maybe down the track you'll see her again and she may be all over you... who knows. You can try talking to her about it, but if you're moving far away I reckon just make sure you stay in touch and anything can happen :)
Best of luck
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reader, atomsmasher  +, writes (9 June 2010):
First off, take a step back. You should have never told this girl you were into her, because you killed any sort of challenge that you could have had. Now, this girl knows you like her, and she is gonna take advantage of that. In other words, don't be surprised when she gets all flirty with other boys in front of you. In fact, you better expect it. She'll use you to make her self look better in front of the guys she really likes, because she is not your momma, and she doesn't give a shit about your feelings. She looks at you like a "friend."
Girls demand games. Here is the secret that every guy NEEDS to know, because it is this simple:
Instead of letting her know how YOU feel about her, work on getting HER to feel that way towards you. She wants to be attracted to a man, but the problem is, all she has to play with are boys. You distinguish yourself by having her chase after you. If you are always around her, she is not going to miss you. If you tell her you like her, she is not going to wonder.
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reader, Dekten  +, writes (9 June 2010):
She seems unsure about what she wants. Maybe it's a bit more than friends, but less than a relationship? Only she knows.
Your best bet would be simply to ask her.
Communication is key, both in a friendship and a relationship.
If you're meant to be as either, you should get your answers soon.
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