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writes:help,my GF is considering leaving me, she thinks we are incompatable because i dont do enough fun things with her and do enough nice things for her....i feel shes borderline taking me for granted.shes been out to see her ex and came home and called me saying that she wants a break, i ask her why - she says because we dont do fun things and have nothing to talk about with people anymore...i feel that we have done plenty of fun things, if we do them too often they dont get appreciated. a couple of weeks ago i took her to colchester zoo, the week after i took her to a motor show - she likes cars we take the dogs for walks, play pool at the local bar sometmes..she shoots me down on a few activities though, like bowling, she'll break fingernails, or going o the cinema- we cant talk over the movies there..but it wil give us something to talk about after she often tells me i dont have enough money to do these things..then she tells me i dontneed money to have fun - often times true like taking the dogs for a walk etc..we dont often spend time with friends for various rasons, like it could be too late for them or it's not convenient for them which i think we need to make more effort doing.and i chimed in with my friends when they discusssed negative points about her at a lads night in, she wasnt the thought, but she thinks i should stick up fer her no matter if i think they are right or wrong...i wouldnt all out insult her but i would agree with my m8's if they say she needs to drive more etc.i resent driving her everywhere...she has a newer car with less mileage - use it once in a while!she goes away for a few weeks to florida next week, wednesday is her birthday (iv givern her some good gifts and she wants to cut ties and run - predictable cow pesh as her ex's have been feeding her lines - i cant cut her ties with them she calls me insecure for this then says she wont go out with some of her male friends because she thinks that ill worry something will happen...everytime shes been out with a bloke shes either kissed him, or come home moaning about our relationship but shes never used the word incompatable before this is slightly scary, iv sorted one problem out another creeps up!) anyway, while she's away what can i do to improve myself and make myself more of an attractive man for her? she says she will see how things go after florida because we will have time to miss eachother.this will help me with any security issues she thinks i have and also give me ideas and things to chat about...and do aswell. any questions i will be happy to answer..please ask or leave advice...i dont want to let her leave!
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reader, Anadin +, writes (28 September 2010):
Anadin is verified as being by the original poster of the question shes decided its best to part ways, we are still going to be friends though
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reader, Anadin +, writes (28 September 2010):
Anadin is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshe's blown me off again tonight, shes seeing another ex. iv pretty much given upand am withdrawing my feelings...i do love her and want to give one more blast of effort, but probably not worth it.
and no, im not in the "blokes" or A$$ class types, im more the shy guy that hides in the corner slightly timid...ah well im better off as heart-wrenching as it may be...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): Hey pal!I feel this girl is high maintenance and one thing I learned, do NOT change yourself for just one woman. If she doesnt like you for who you are, well, haha (insert any phrase here). Sure, you can make minor changes or compromises but when it come to stuff about who you are, change for yourself not for her, it will make you happy. She's clearly losing interest and giving youre young this is normal cause when two ppl mature, they can grow apart. This is why getting married so young can be a HUGE risk. In my opinion, you dont have any issues pal, its all her and the way she treats you, you dont deserve it. She clearly doesnt like being treated generously,believe me I know this, women hate men like myself cause Im too kind. Youre the nice guy, shes the bitch (with all due respect)...those women are attracted to idiots, a$$holes, and "blokes", and youre not in that class are you mate? I think youre better so you deserve better. Best of luck.
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