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writes:I freaked out the other night on my boyfriend. He and I are usually very affectionate and when we go to bed (if we're not having sex) we'll hold each other for a while before going to sleep... but the other night he didn't touch me at all. I tried telling myself he was surely just tired after spending most of the day driving, but I couldn't help stressing myself out by running through in my head all the things I'd said and done that day which might have offended him. I completely freaked myself out, got a little teary and had to get up and do some deep breathing in the lounge room for a while to calm down. He sensed I was upset about something and held me and kissed me for a while - of course there was nothing wrong as far as he was concerned, he was just tired. The reason I freaked out like that is my ex made me feel constantly like I was treading on thin ice. Every time I thought things were going well with him and I was happy, I'd do something "wrong" like say something he thought was silly or look vaguely near another man and he'd get really angry and threaten to leave me. So now I feel like I might lose my boyfriend or push him away because of that. I don't know if I should tell him about it? Or if there's something I can do to get over this feeling?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 September 2010):
 This sounds like really needy behaviour you have, obviously from the way your ex treated you, maybe go to a counselling session, someone proffessional what you can talk to, they can bring up your self asteem and anxiety issues and offer ways to help you, good luck.
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