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writes:iv been close friends with this girl for a year now, weve been like the best of friends the whole time and nothing has changed, we talk about everything and were always together, but for the last 6 months shes been obsessed with this guy that she's liked for a long time and shes told me how much she likes him and wants to be with him, but he had a gf so it took about a month or two before they startd goin out her and this guy, and it was only recently that she split up with him after well basically an aweful relationship, they werent really that great and he treated her pretty badly, but we have since then become so close, so close infact tha we spent everyday together for about 2 weeks, she came to mine, and i went to hers and a lot of her friends were saying so much about me and her like why you with him, etc you getting together, but its only been recent tht iv really been getting other feelings for her like i want to be in a relationship with her. iv told her how i feel and she said i dont feel the same cause were so close but it could happen somewhen, and she went on to say that it felt right being round yours etc and that if she was to get a new bf n it wasnt right n think i could have done this with me. but she thinks it will ruin things, but were so close and since iv known her she has never let anythig get between me and her, and i feel that this wouldnt ruin me and her, and that we wouldnt let it effect me and her if it was to happen, so im stuck on what i should do next. i need help.
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reader, muffy  +, writes (4 August 2008):
 Okay,well,you can't make someone like you so get that idea out of your head.Shes been treated badly in her last relationship you said so maybe shes just scared to date again and she's using the "I don't want it to ruin our friendship" excuse.What you need to do is just always be yourself and always be there for her.Keep doing what your doing and maybe sooner or later she'll come to realize that your the one for her.
I hope I've helped
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (4 August 2008):
 All the help you need is this: she isn't into you. That fact might make the friendship difficult. If you insist on your feelings for her, that will make it impossible.
She sounds sincere. You were a friend when she needed you and she didn't expect it to become more. And, more important, she doesn't seem to have made anything to make you expect more.
I suggest that you take a break from her and find someone else. When your heart and mind are OK, you might come back to her.
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