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writes:Dear Agony AuntsI really really need your help.I'm 14, and me and this girl are going out and i know she's deeply in love with me and so was i, but now i don't think i love her anymore, and she doesn't have a lot of friends. She defines it as her whole life now revolves around me, and i don't want to hurt her or make her deeply upset, but i don't want to go out with her anymore. The only way i can see not hurting her is by staying with her, but i don't know what to do, and i really need help. So i hope you guys and girls can help.thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): u have to think about urself sometimes why are u forcing urself to be withsome one u dont love or like
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reader, sam0590 +, writes (4 August 2008):
you can't stay with someone your not happy with so eventually you will have to break up with her. let her down gently and make it very clear that it is over..do not mess with her head or give her any false hope of getting back together with you. this will only make it harder for her.
however..remain good friends with her and be there for her while she gets back on her feet. if you treat her well and look after her she will really appreciate you for this in the long run! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks very much everyone it really does meen alot to me thank you
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reader, BendychickP  +, writes (4 August 2008):
 Well, I believe that the definition of a relationship is two people who care about each other. I know that you do care about this girl, but it will just her her more in the long run if you keep going with this relationship. You need to think, do I really want to lie about my feelings. It will just mean every one gets hurt when she finds out the truth. You need to talk to her about how you are feeling and maybe suggest that you just be friends. I might be a little awkward at first, but it is better that straight out lying about how you feel. Good luck.
Bendy xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): Aww. You can't force yourself to be with someone. You won't be happy. And sooner or later, she WILL realize that you don't have feelings for her. They always do. I always did with my recent relationship. So please, please tell this girl. Let her down gently. Find her a new guy, be there for her. Have you found someone better? Don't tell her that. It will hurt her even more. But don't lie to her either! When you break it off, remain her friend.
Good luck to you
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