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writes:Alright, so just about 4 months ago i started to get back into dating again when i met this girl that has me going crazy now(in a good way). she has been writing me messages and texting me multiple times a day and she always wants to be around me when im in town. She is really busy with working and often has to leave town for business reasons. She is also debating seriously on going back to gradschool in another state. Just recently i asked her if she was "talking" with any other guys and she said i was the only guy. My reason behind this question was because i didnt want to be playing a fool(as i have in the past). but she was quick to also say that she doesn't think distance relationships work and she also didnt know if she was going to gradschool or not. then she went on to say she didn't want anything serious. but also goes on to say that she promises that she will call me when she gets back and how she can't wait to be back....what is going on in her head? to me, we already have is a relationship. and what should i do to possibly take it to the next level?
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reader, Annalisa  +, writes (25 March 2008):
 That's where people go wrong: you don't have a relationship, you have a friendship with physical attraction and budding feelings.
She likes you and enjoys dating you, but is not ready for anything stable and serious, yet, so you can't force her.
Either play it by ear and see how things go, or open your heart to her and tell her you want things to move on from where you are. But be ware, if she's not ready, you might just push her away!
God bless you and good luck!
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reader, guillaume + ♥, writes (25 March 2008):
Hi, What stands out for me is when she says she "doesn't want anything serious." From how I read your post, I can tell you like her a lot but I fear you are going to get hurt here as you begin to fall in love with a girl that may be not as serious as you. Be very careful, it seems she is "in charge" of your relationship at the moment as you feel more for her than she does for you. Take one step at a time please and go slowly. Don't get hurt. If things develop, come back on this site for help! best wishes,G.
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