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She says she can forgive me but I need to earn her trust. How can I win her back totally?

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Question - (6 December 2007) 3 Answers - (Newest, 7 December 2007)
A male United Kingdom age 36-40, *tuie22 writes:

I have been with my current girlfriend for 10 months and when we were together for 4 months i stupidly kissed another girl at a party i also met up with her once but did not sleep with her,last night i confessed to her last night and our relationship is together by the skin of teeth I love her with all my heart and i dont think i have ever showed this in the relationship all she has been is caring and loving to me i want to be comitted to getting with her is there any chance of us getting back together? she says she can forgive me but i need to earn her trust and love again i personally think its worth it how can i win her back fully?

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A male reader, chlez83 Zambia +, writes (7 December 2007):

Dude no matter what you say or do.Her trust won't come back like a magic show.Accept that you hurt her and try to make things better by showing her that you still love and care about her and i can assure you,with time she'll forget about it.The fact she forgave you should tell you that she believes she can forget about and still be happy with you so help her achieve it.Imagine,it's like finding your girl in bed with someone else and then you forgive her.Can you forget about it in a day or two.Give her sometime and let your actions win her trust and not your expectations.

All the best.

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (6 December 2007):

kenny agony auntI just think it is going to take time, i think you will win her back fully, but you are going to have to be patient. Ultimately you have betrayed her trust, so now she has got to learn to trust you again, which as i said takes time. You say you love her with all your heart, so show her this, and how much she means to you. tell her you made a stupid, stupid mistake and it will never happen again. Why don't you book a nice weekend away, or a meal at your favourite resturant. All these little gesures will all help get you back on track. Make her feel like she is the most special loved girl in the world, and keep enphasizing how much she means to you.

All the best & good luck

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2007):

well... i suppose it's good that you admitted it to her

however - you shouldn't have done it in the first place!

it all depends on her as to whether you can get her back or not, some people totally refuse to get back with someone who has cheated on them - as a rule.

however, if you show her how much you love her - not by cheesiness, flowers, singing outside the window etc. like you see in films, but by something that really means something to the both of you - or doing something, sacrificing something to show her that you really are commited to getting her back.

just don't go into the realms of stalker!

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