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writes:Thank you all for helping me through a difficult time of mine. So im not a perfect guy. When it comes to girls I dont exactly show a lot of love... I keep most of it away that way break ups are'nt tough... right? Well my ex-girlfriend and I broke up about 3 days ago. Most of it was over a girl that I've had a history with before. My ex thought that me and her had admitted our liking to each other, but wasn't true cause I love her and no other girl. When I tried telling her this she pretty much ignores and it and wont believe me. Ive gave this girl no reason not to trust me. I've never cheated nor lied to her. She's a sophmore and im a junior(HIGHSCHOOL) and we dated for about 2.5 months... my longest relationship. About 3 days ago when we were fighting we exchanged some words and i said some things i wish i wouldnt have... but i cant take it back now, and i told her to leave me alone. I told her this because it would make the breakup easier right?... Well 3 days to now ive cried over her multiple times which is something I never do, ive dreamt of her, and all i do is think of her. It's very hard for me type this as you can probably tell, sorry im just very emotional through this. I love this girl and id do anything to please her... worst timing for this breakup... valentines week huh. so any advice to either get back with her or to move on would help a lot. I know im not exactly being descriptive about us breaking up, but i was a macho guy who complained about not being happy with her a lot and now that shes gone im miserable... shes met my family and ive met hers. She means the WORLD to me and im being honest... i dont even know if i should get her a valentines girl or not... so if you could answer any of these questions it would helps so much. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2011): "She means the WORLD to me and im being honest..."
Tell her this, she will know if your actions follow this and tell her how sorry you are for what you said. We all say things we regret especially at times like these- words and hurt cannot be taken back but if you are really sorry you can show that now and over time and you can repair things. The other issues can be dealt with over time about the jealousy.
It is better to show love when you feel it because overall you never know what is coming around the corner, so if she means the world to you show her and let her know that.
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reader, Sav  +, writes (14 February 2011):
In a calm, collected voice and in a public place (so she can't go nuts or overreact and argue with you - but not in front of all your friends in school which would be embarrassing for you both) tell her you are truly sorry for the things you said in the heat of the moment, and ask her if she will please forgive you for saying them. Thank her for agreeing to forgive you.Then without getting into anymore conversation about the argumnet or who started it or anything like that - ask her if you can take her out on Friday night as an apology.If she says yes - Do not text her all week unless she texts you first, but keep your answers short and sweet, friendly but not overly eager. This will make her look forward to seeing you. When you do go out, treat it like a first date - do not say or talk about anything you would not normally say or do on a first date. This is vital. If she says no -Say, "ok, well you know where I am if you change your mind."Then leave it till she comes to you - and she will. Do not do or say anything that you would not normally do or say on a first date. If it helps, imagine her older brother is standing nearby, or her dad. Be polite but don't grovel or beg.Stay strong, smile long, laugh loud, walk proud !Oh and PS, if it's not too late - get her a small Valentine's card and gift - everyone want to know they are thought of on Valentine's Day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2011): i know your pain. my life is about the same just dumped yesterday by a girl that i showed never ending love to. imcryin as i type this so its hard for me as well. but im going to go after her and i say you should try to get her back tell her that you have been crying and dreaming about her. say that shes been on your mind everyday and just keep on telling her how much you love her. i wish you best of luck. and hopefully neither of us are alone on valentines day.
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