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writes:Should I be worried??Ok basically im 18 and so is my gf , we have been together for almost 2 years now. I am her first serious relationship and she is mine. After about 4 months of being together it was a close friends of hers birthday and he had a houseparty, she got really drunk and she ended up kissing another boy at this party , she told me first thing when she woke up the next day... but i beleive the only reason she told me is because i knew all the people there and that i would have fond out.i eventually forgave her and we became all loved up agen with the common arguements and upsets normal relationships have here and there but for obvious reason i had lost a huge amount of trust but i have never really been in this postion before. In the summer comming which was around 6 months later a freind of hers added me on facebook we began talking a little a bit for a week or so, during this week her and my freind had fallen out for other reasons (nothing to do with talking to me) and me and the friend were talking about why they had stopped talking and she asked me the quistion "why would you stay with your girlfrined after she cheated on you them TimeS" when i saw the word timeS i was a bit confused and got in to detail about what she meant, and she told me the following... in the first 1-3 weeks of us being together she kissed 3 other boys and had touchy and feely with one of them , so all in all she cheated on me 4 times, she hasnt had sex with any of them and only done something sexual with one of them.... for some amazing stupid reason i got back with her after about 3 months of finding this out.. i dont know what you think but is it still cheating even though it was the first 1-3 weeks ?, all these times where due to alochol...anyways we are all happy together now but she likes to go out drinking a lot and some places she goes the boy she cheated with is there even tho she hates him and he hates her which i beleive but it still bothers me there both in the same place.... shes naturally a chatty person and can give boys the wrong impression because she chats to them and she has told me boys have tried to kiss her when shes out. but im worried as when she sshe gets smashed out of her face and cant really control herself. i recently went through her phone and found boys talking dirty to her but to be fair she said she no to them.So there two main things that are bothering me:One is that can i trust her and beleive she wont do the dirty on me agen ? second shes going on holiday to 2 places which are known for drink, clubs and sex... should i be concerned? even tho ive said i dont know what im going to think when your there and she says just trust me..So shall i trust her? can i beleive she hasnt cheated on me more since the times she said, and whats the chnces of her cheating on me agen ? sorry to babble on... thanks for any replies.
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reader, dyeruz +, writes (29 May 2010):
When you say boys have tried to kiss her, what makes them believe they have the pass to actually try to kiss her, unless she's leading them on? Once maybe but three times! Thing is if you continue this relationship as time goes on, everytime she goes out without you, you'll be wondering what she's up to. If she doesnt make it clear she has a boyfriend and guys are still coming on to her then that's not good news for you.
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