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writes:MOD NOTE: 3 questions from same poster all about cheating...Would you ever forgive cheating? Lets say it was only touching and not sex, and the person who was "touched" was very drunk and stopped it after a moment and got really upset immediately after. Does the form/extremeness of the cheating change the way you deal with it. Are there some things you could fogive only if it happened once? In what order do you think is the worst? EX:1. Intercourse2. Oral3. Kissing4. TouchingWho here has cheated ( whether it be just a kiss or full on sex) and the person they cheated on still to this day does not know it ever happened? Are you still with ths person and do you still feel the guilt? How long ago did the cheating incident happen and was it only a one time thing? Was it with someone they knew or a complete stranger?Who here has made it work with the person that cheated on them? How did you find out and why did you decide to stay with them and make it work? What kind of cheating was it (sex, kissing,ect)
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (28 May 2010):
 I am gonna tell 2 things that are apparently contraddicting each other. They are not. They integrate each other..
1 ) Cheating is cheating, it does not matter which body part touches which. Leave these subtleties to Bill Clinton. What counts is the intention. The moment my partner does something behind my back that detracts his sexual and / or emotional energy from me and focus it on another person, that's cheating. Even if it were just a virtal,online relationship, with no actual physical contact.
2) Things happen. To the best of us. We are all humans, we all make mistakes, make bad judgement calls, have moments of weakness , at times we are just plain stupid.
Forgiveness is a great gift- to others and to ourselves.
I suspect there is no real love without forgiveness,and I am sure that there is no peace of mind without it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2010): No cheating is acceptable in ANY way shape or form, if there is a tisk of cheating when drunk etc then
don't get drunk.
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