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writes:Thanks to everyone who reads this.Basically, I was seeing a girl for a little bit and she ended up breaking contact with me after she said that she didn't want to see me again after not speaking to her on a night out with friends (she went with hers, I went with mine).The next day she text me saying she was mad still and didn't want to see me again, then later that day rang me just saying she was trying to get back at me for annoying her, so we agreed to talk about it the next day. But I didn't hear from her and kinda sent her a message saying I'm not being messed around, a few texts exchanged then I didn't hear from her again.Fast forward about a month - month and a half, and I randomly got a text from her asking how I am and that she's been thinking of me. So of course I was a little shocked and surprised. So we exchanged pleasentaries for a while, then I asked what I did wrong and why she ended it.She told me that things were getting too intense and she didn't want anything serious, so I said like fine no problems, but couldn't you of just told me that. SO later the same night she texts me at 2am telling me she can't stop thinking about me...I will be seeing her out on saturday night, which I'm looking forward to, as I've been thinking about her a lot too, but it gets awkward as I've recently started talking to her friend who I met also on a night out, that I had NO IDEA they were mates, hoping that doesn't screw anything up..So as you can expect, I'm confused as hell right now...What would your interpretations of this be? What is she doing? Thankyou for your time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt would seem that male anon hit the nail on the head. Basically what happened on saturday night was this:
- We said hello and spoke for a little while.
-I also spoke to her mate a little bit, she was looking really peed off with me and told me to go away, saying she saw me dancing with another girl (I was stood with my mates most of the night, so don't remember this one)
-Her mate then showed her (confusing girl) what I'd been texting her, nothing bad, was just general chit chat.
-confusing girl wants to talk to me, so I meet her and we chat for a bit, every so often she tells me to 'just kiss her'. So we talk for about an hour, she's in tears telling me she doesn't know what she wants and 'can't have a bf'. So I just said whatever, nothing I can say back to that. Then she just ended up walking off with her mate, which really annoyed me.
-she text me later in the night saying 'you like my mate, go for it' so I said don't text me drunk we will speak tomorrow.
-i rang her the next day and she said that we should just be friends and I told her she shouldn't have bothered texting me back, to which she replied pretend I didn't'
- apparently she now has a bf (I'm not 100% on this) and also her mate has stopped speaking to me.
At least I can just finally get her outta my head now as it proves she was just narcissistic and craved the attention. I can't see how she could of genuinely liked me with how she acted, so this was just one big mess from the start.
Anyways, thanks for your input guys, much appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2012): It seems there is a power struggle going on here, you really like her, she really likes you.... so now what?
Ignoring her gave her the wrong impression, considering the above was established, I would say she got confused by that and thought you were sending out mixed signals, which made her more cautious in case she was being play. That's what could have been going on in her head.
Ok you were both with your friends, but a 2 minute convo and then you part for the night would have been fine. You should have at least acknowledged the fact that she was there, you were seeing her after all.
I think she still likes you, but next stage is you need to both establish what you want, arrange to meet up and just talk openly with each other.
Good luck.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2012): "What would your interpretations of this be? What is she doing?"
Sounds like she's a user and you're her convenient pit stop between laps around the track.
Expect more of the same, being jerked around, led on, puffed and flattered, dumped and ignored, at her beck and call when she has use for you to be around, at her beck and call when she is otherwise occupied while you sit home alone.
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