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writes:I dated a girl about 12 years ago for 3 years, we ended on good terms, but just after we broke up, I became a good friend to her slightly older sister. I dont really speak to my ex anymore but i am still very good friends with her sister. Her sister and I have had a great friendship for the last 8 years. after 8 years of other relationships (including a brief marrage on her part) we are now both single and spend most of our spare time together.For the first time since i have know her i have started have feelings beyond frendship for her.She is my ex-girlfriends sister, but that was many years ago. But then she's also my best friendmid life problems...?.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (6 July 2015):
Probably not midlife problems. After all, you say you’ve had a steady friendship with this woman for quite some time. The real question is what you do about it. Do you know whether she feels the same? Do you want to tell her and ask her? Do you think, even if she did feel the same, that you could date her knowing it brings your ex back in to your life? And would she consider it given your history with her sister? You are best placed to make these judgements in deciding whether to tell her or not as how you answer them determines whether there’s even a possibility this could develop in to something more. If you don’t think it can, perhaps it’s best not to put your friendship at risk.
I wish you all the very best.
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