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writes:Ok, whole problem has changed now so it needs a new question.Basically theres a girl in one of my college classes, who I really like. problem was I'm a girl, and I found out she had a boyfriend. Straight? My Gaydar thought otherwise, but having been hurt one too many times by hoping girls with Boyfriends were bi, I ignored my gaydar as usual.It really suprised me she had a boyfriend, because everything about her, her clothes, her hair, her voice, the way she walks, sits, everything said bi. I know, i know...it's just that usually if a girl has a boyfriend she's straight. So I put it to the back of my mind.However, it didn't add up. The way she was around me, (i sit next to her) it seemed like she was intimidated by me, she didn't say anything to me for weeks. she seemed to be always on edge, and really self conscious around me. She was shy anyway, but after a bit she could talk to other straight people in the class, but not me,it was like I was diseased.It felt a bit like she hated me, for no apparent reason. Or more accurately she didn't want to like me. I guess it's partly down to me too, I'm also pretty shy sometimes.Finally, she realised she couldn't exactly go the whole year not speaking to me, but she was reallly nervous, and it seemed really forced.But wierdly enough, recently she's a lot more comfortable around me, not totally, but niether am i to be honest, we get on a lot better, talk more naturaly etc. And then tonight, our class went out for a meal, and she nonchalantly said that she was bisexual to our table. do you think that explains why she was a bit off with me before? Why did she change? I'm not going to come between her and her boyfriend, though, I've learned from my mistakes. Should I tell her I'm bi? like casually.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2009): Tell her.
Do you want to spend the rest of your life wondering what might have been? We rarely get opportunities come our way in this life and if you just let her drift away.....
All you need to do is approach her in a quiet moment and say something like "you know what you said the other day about being bi; well, I am too".
Then it's up to her what she makes of it or carries it forward, but at least you will have shown your hand.
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