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writes: Ok, here it goes... I've been dating this girl since early July. The two of us have a really great time together but she can't seem to connect physically with me. She mentioned something about having a problem with the fact that I'm still legally married (I've been separated from my wife since late December 2005 and have to wait a year before filing for divorce in Virginia. I havent been in contact with my ex since). I understand her problem with this but I have my needs too. To be around her and not really kiss and cuddle and hold hands until one of us leaves is really hard on me. My problem is that I'm starting to develop serious feelings for her. Am I trying too hard to make something work that just wont? Both of us say we are boyfriend/girlfriend to the other but we act more like buds with a goodnight kiss. please help...
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reader, bby_gal06 +, writes (7 December 2006):
 hiya
well i think that you should try talking to her telling her that you are not interested in your ex wife and the one you want is her! it will be hard because a girl likes to think that a man is hers and while you are still married legally she probably thinks that you dont belong to her!
but as for developing serious feelings im sure that she will understand this if you just tell her but explain things in depth and say that you feel about you just being buds but with a good-night kiss she may reconsider the way she feels and express her self more.
good things always take time and bad things happen if you rush into things so dont worry about the physical side of things just yet.
get your feelings straight and make sure she understands that she is the one you want and not your ex-wife
good luck with all this hope i have helped you.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (7 December 2006):
 I think I have a problem too, It's December now get that divorce moving along.
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