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writes:Hi i am a 16 year old male i have just broke up with my girlfrend she got blind drunk at a party and had sex with another man. she said she didnt meen for that to happen i do believe that. We broke up that night she told me, she said she had lost feelings for me and would need sum time to think about havin another relationship, we have been together for over a year we were deeply in love with each other and i still am but she said she cant help how her feelings work and doesnt want to be in another relationship with me anytime soon. I love this girl so much despite her cheating on me she was a good gf and i was the best bf i could possibly be. is there anything i could or can do for me to do for her feelings to change so we could have another relationship? i need all the suggestions i can so make sure u drop us a line thank you all! :)
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reader, DIE-romantic.  +, writes (3 July 2007):
 Well, theres not much you can do really, if she doesnt want a relationship with you anytime soon, but that doesnt mean she means forever, the only thing is, if you move on now its going to be pointless moving on and getting back to square one if she decides she wants you afterall when she feels like it. I would move on though, even though its going to be really hard and you obviously do have alot of feelings for her but live for yourself babe, and move on. She seems adamant about her decision, so find somebody else who'll make you happy. :)xxxxx take care.
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reader, love-him +, writes (2 July 2007):
 Hey babe, yea it gunna be hard.. but honestly, you need to stop thinkin bout her, or at least try to think of other things.. the more you think about her the more you will be upset.. the next relationship you get into take it slow babe incase this kinda thing happens to you again, it will be less painful.. mail me x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice every1 uve been every helpful :),
i no she doesnt love me anymore and its hard to let go wen i spoke 2 her everynight for hours and hourse and wood see her 3 times a weeek. I have picked up with other girls and even had sex with 1 of them but i still luv her it doesnt help for me to get with other girls... its just hard and i still love her, i was da best bf i cood be for her and she just ruins the relationship like that! wb every1 please
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reader, love-him +, writes (1 July 2007):
Um ok babe, seems to me that you have forgiven her, and when she told you, it was her who ended it because she needed time to think.. it should have been you. im not gona tel u wot shes dun (cheating) cos im sure u no.. the fact she slept with someone is rediculous.. has she thaught about pregnanct or STIs or what.. Drink does terrible things babe.. I dont suggest you do anything to try and get this relationship back, let her run to you, because it was her fault in the first place. i know ur not liking what im saying, and im sorry for that, but it is the truth and you deserve better.. she made a mistake yes, and she told you which was good.. but is she willing to make a promise it wont happen again and has it changed the trust between you to? mail me if u wanna talk x x x x x x
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (1 July 2007):
 No, there is nothing you can do to change her feelings. All you can do is accept what she is telling you and walk away in silence. Picture this: if you lost feelings for this girl, would anything she did make you change your mind? There's the answer you need.
I know this sounds harsh, but I think everyone must confront the bare facts.
Keep your spirits up.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2007): what the hell are you thinking of!!! this girl does not respect you let alone love you! why should you be with someone who doesnt feel the same.It sounds like shes moved on and it sounds like your trying to hold onto something that isnt there anymore.she cheated on you and no matter how drunk she was, it was no accident!
Your only young and have plenty of time to find the person your supposed to be with and as they say there are plenty more fish in the sea. I think maybe you need to have a little time just being single and find out what you want in life and learn to respect yourself. hope everything works out ok xxxx
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