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anonymous
writes:I am 41 and was in a serious relationship with a 24 year old woman for over a year. She split with me 6 months ago, said she loved me but couldn't be with me. We had no contact for a few days then she called me in tears saying she loved me and couldnt bare to be without me in her life, but doesnt want to get back with me. Since then we have very slowly started seeing each other again, we go out together, she stays at mine once a week, we sleep together but, she wont kiss or hold my hand (unless she drunk).She has said she cant show me any love at the moment and doesnt want me to show her any.At first I accepted it thinking it was just a phase, but now it's looking like a permanant thing and I just dont want to be in a loveless relationship. When we chat about it, and she thinks i'm going to end it, she breaks down in tears, says she desperately wants me back but cant. Doeasnt say why she cant, only that she cant.If I try to show affection she just switches off automatically without thinking, as if she been doing it that long now it's natural.I love her very much and she loves me just as much, and yes we are still IN LOVE with each other. But this situation is driving me mad.I'm open to any advice and ideas.Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2009): I think you said it all. She depends on you for a fatherly/uncle type relationship. Supportive and loving. If you can remain 'just friends' with her, then let her know, but I would 'put myself back on the market' so to speak. 'available' I'm sorry, this must be hard to make the break, but you really need to move on, this isn't fair to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2009): No...I have no money, no job for past 6 months as the company I worked for went under.She only depends on me emotionally!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (26 February 2009):
 Not to be mean but I have to ask, Do you have lots of money? Does she depend on you financially?
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