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writes:I have been married 25 years to my childhood sweetheart, the past five years things are going down hill, my drive for sex is great hers is almost gone, what am I to do, she gets all mad if I look at porn or pictures, yet when I ask for it from her she gets mad, I feel like im going to explode inside. I have bought $1000 of dollors worth of sexy cloths for her and she will not wear them, I beg her to give me sexy picture of her and she will not, she has a very sexy body.. How can I make her want me. I need her to want me. I am a farily good looking guy, in shape . I dont want to divorce or have an affair....but it cant stay this way much longer
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reader, nenny007 +, writes (21 March 2009):
Well it all depends on how you treat her. My husband drank a lot and was not home and when he was not drunk he was just an ass. Look at the way you are treating her and you may need to rethink your approach. My husband finaly figured it out when I left him and now that I am back he is treating me a lot better. It is usually about that. But you need to hurry because she will find what she needs in another person and then it is too late for you. I know I ended up finding what I was lacking in my marriage with another guy and he also was looking for something else because his wife was like yours. She never wanted any thing physical. I think that is because he was never home because he works a lot but now he and I are satisfying one another's needs. I am not saying what we are doing is right but we are happy at this point. Again just rethink your approach, start from scratch and woo her again; make her feel like a queen emotionaly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2009): i agree with "A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2009)"
sorry to be harsh but if you want sex...
if youve been pressing and pressurising her for sex while looking at porn and things no wonder she doesnt want it all of that would be the biggest turn off- if you dont understand try to think about how it would feel if your wife was ... always reading romance novels and wanted romance from you like in the books and was always nagging you about how she isnt loved and appreciated enough rararar... and then went and bought paper and pens and wanted you to write romantic love poems to her like in the novels? you probably wouldnt like it and wouldnt want to right?
to make her want it- put her first- take a step back from all the sexual requesting and cut off from the porn and instead put your energy into showering her with love- compliments, special gifts, surprises, doing her duties and chores for her- give her time to relax- give her a massage- go for cuddles and soft kisses and whisper things to her that you know will definitely please her and remind her about how much you love her every chance you get- dont mention sex at all- let her know you do want to have sex with her but say that loving her comes first and that means if she doesnt want it- you dont want it.
do all of this correctly and mean it- and she will definitely be dressing up in all your sexy clothes and fufilling all your sexual needs and desires.
goodluck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2009): Buying sexy clothes, and asking her to send sexy pictures isn't going to make her want to have sex with you. It's making her feel resentful towards you, like you only want her for her body. Why don't you try the romantic apporach? tell her how beautiful she is, run her a bath and make her dinner. Kiss and hug her without expecting sex. Try those things
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (9 March 2009):
 Just ease off any pressure. If she feels pressured then she is likely to stop having sex even if she wanted to. Try masturbating in private!! Don't let her know as she may feel inadequet. Give her lots of compliments and make her feel wanted but don't make her feel like you are saying nice things so she will have sex. It will take time, please hang in there!! X
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