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writes:Hello, I am about to write this in the hopes it falls into good hands and open minds. I am a mid 30's male. My sex life started quite young as I learned about sex at around age 7, read the Joy of Sex when I was 9. Read about 50 penthouse forums, when I was 12-14. Started to watch porn at 15, lost virginity after that, and the whole while, I was trying to learn everything about the female body and how to make it writhe in extacy. With the same girl, I discovered oral pleasures, and why they felt good. I discovered that the right words, breaths and touches, I could steer her in ways I had only read about. I realized that my sex drive was quite healthy, but I was overly satisfied when I pleased my partner and felt very little need to orgasm myself. I had forgotten what sex was about and focused so much on my partner, I left them out of the equation and didn't give them much of a chance to satisfy there needs to satisfy me. Kind of a catch 22 situation. Sex wasn't the most important part of the relationship, but it was how I truly bonded emotionaly with my partner, so I started to fail at the relationships. Along the years, I grew up and found more ways to be a better partner, but still held honesty and sex in the highest of importance. Recently I focused on a parnter that was compatible out of the bedroom and kind of lacking in the confidence of the bedroom. I felt that I would be able to teach her about her body and keep her satisfied. I made a huge mistake and spent 3 and 1/2 years with a woman, who cheated once, denied me sexualy on a consistant basis, and got physically violent, all because I felt I could change her with a few orgasms. My own downfall because I had to spend the years satisfying myself, starting and rarely finishing terrible sexual encounters with her. I was a wreck. I had forgotten who I was. So after six stiches to my face after complaining about never getting oral from her ever...I walked away. I remembered who I was and started to look for a woman who could complete and heal my sexual side, and at the same time rock her world. I found such a woman in a short amount of time and belive that I found a match to my love of sex and pleasure. I've realized who I once was and how happy I can be. Her sex drive is like no other I have encountered. This woman has an incredibly open personality, describes her sexual needs in detail and does not hold back. She is honest and true (faithful), and I am in shock. I can hardly believe that we met at just the right time, and that after 4 years I could still do what I thought I had forgotten. We try to take breaks from sex and learn who we are out of the bedroom of course. Everything is working good in that aspect aswell, which makes me very happy and satisfied. I'm now trying to see where or why this story is here. I started to write it with the hopes of being inciteful, and witty, but I think it was more of a chance for me to let everyone out there know, that everyone can be happy, sad and longing for life. You don't know what you have/or had until it is missing. Everything up to date has led up to me meeting this very special woman, how well we hit it off and how much we have enjoyed eachothers bodies and minds. I have tips, advice, and incite to many things. I have learned from experience and mistakes. I am a good listener and like to pass on knowledge. Want your man to get some advice on how to plan a romanitc encounter with love and care, I can help. Guys with confidence issues, jealousy (from other males or toys), I can help. Ladies who need an honest mans perspective, ask away.
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (19 January 2011):
 I did the 3.5 year relationship with a woman that never gave sexually in any way, then cheated. I've grown up giving pleasure to girlfriends and never getting back (or fretting too much about it). But I've not found that good relationship at the end of the road that you have. It's nice to hear that it's working out well for somebody. I'm not terribly concerned about my sexuality though... You start saying that you put too much emphasis on sex and ruined relationships, then say that your current relationship is amazing because she's got a high libido. Hopefully there's more to her than that? If that's all I have to look forward to, I'll just stay single. Less heartache.
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