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writes:I have made love with 3 of my ex-boyfirneds and my current bf. I was amazed by how romantic and gentle and beautiful sex could be.all my exbfs were virgins and sex with them was boring, tiring (I had to move from the beginning to the end and I am not sexually experienced), and hurt. What happened with my exbfs was we cuddle, felt close, sex, and during sex I regretted having it because I felt like running on a treadmill and I hate working out.But my new bf guy is older, and he has had over 10 sex partners in his life (he is 34, normal for his age I guess?). And making love with him is sooooo beautiful!!!!It isn't tiring: he is doing all the work; It doesn't hurt: he doesn't push very hard; It was very romantic: I enjoy it from the very beginning to the end and I fee I'm being loved. To be honest I don't even remember what we do during sex all I know is we are being close and elegant. I thought sex was physical but with this guy I feel it is very emotional.I've never had an orgasm though, not even with this guy but I am emotionally satisfied.I was surprised but at the same time I was wondering if older guys perform better during sex because they are more experienced or this guys is better than avg? So is having sex with a FWB who is sexually experienced the same as having sex with someone who loves you and cares about you? Can someone tell whether someone likes him/her by how they sexually perform?I am turning 23 and I have had 4 sex partners throughout my past serious long term relationships do you think that's too many?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionEbonyBlossom,
hahaha. Well, just normal stuff. Nothing special I guess? The only difference was he was leading me while my exes were inexperienced. One thing I learned was my exes were HURTING me for the whole time but I didn't know it wasn't supposed to feel that way because I was also inexperienced. lol
He started banging when he was 14. (I was this good/nerdy daddy's girl and didn't have any bf before I turned 19) The duration of his sex life is almost as long as my my age. so that's a lot of practice for him. =/
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (29 April 2009):
 If you remember what it is he does can you post it so I can show my boyfriend ?!?!?! =p
Yeah, the experience and the emotion are both factors in whether someone is a good lover or not. I'm my boyfriend's first unfortunately lol =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): Sorry if I misunderstood. I do know what you mean though it can be exhausting. You'll build up stamina though like with anything and since its so much fun, its not like other forms of exercise lol. It helps if you are generally fit though and take good care of yourself XD
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionanonymous,
next time I will ask him how i can improve. I am really considerate and that was why I was the one who moved all the time.Like my bf would move for 2 mins and I will be like "are you tired? let me help" and I started to feel like working on a treadmill. All I could think was "oh my legs are sore I am tired but he hasn't cum yet I need to keep running" lol
would guys feel the same?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Griffo
All my three past relationships were serious but sex with them sucked.(again, I felt I was working out instead of being loved.) =(
This guy is just great so I wonder if some young guys who have more experiences will do the same. I am a "boring" girl and I happen to like nerdy guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): I think sex is better when there is a deep emotional connection to the person, but then again I have only had sex with someone I loved but it makes sense to me since its easier to trust and let go with someone you love. Enjoying sex is based a lot on how much you can let go of your inhibitions.
If your previous partners lacked sexual experience and they did nothing to reciprocate in sex, aka they didn't care whether or you were pleased only if they got to cum, then of course it would feel better with someone who takes their time to satisfy you! That said it sounds like you are more concerned with your own pleasure and that you feel its too much effort to move, or return affection, and that's not really fair. Learn how to pleasure your mate and how to enjoy it, I find it much more pleasurable when I know my partner is really enjoying himself, when I know I have done things to make him feel good. Sex like a relationship is a partnership no one should have to do all the work. Remember how you felt doing everything for your exes? It didn't seem fair did it? So don't do that to someone else.
Some people are just better in bed than others, I find my partner gets better and better, he keeps studying, doing things to keep it exciting, and with time we grow more and more comfortable with each other and with our own bodies. I have more orgasms now then I did in the beginning and you seem to be with a man who cares about your pleasure so no doubt he will improve with time too. Do you masturbate? Its also important to know how to pleasure yourself so you can help your mate out.
Its not the same having sex with an experienced partner and someone you love, yes both can improve the sex (though just b/c someone has a had many partners doesn't mean they'll be good just like someone with few isn't necessarily bad), but for rather different reasons.
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (28 April 2009):
 I personally think that sex (Making love) with somebody you love, loves you or even better both love each other is far more pleasing in the bedroom than just having sex with somebody who your not in love with.
I too have had the same experiences in my past and when I met a woman who loved me and I loved her the pleasures were far more sensitive, elegant and sexy. Yet when i was with a woman who did not and i did not it was nowhere near as pleasurable.
So to me its not just about the past experiences it is about the way that person loves you and you love him/her which in turn stimulates the heart, the physical pleasures stimulate the body, and your mind and thoughts stimulates your soul. All three working in harmony.
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