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Sex is boring and he doesn't take me anywhere! What is going on?

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Question - (23 May 2007) 3 Answers - (Newest, 23 May 2007)
A female United States age 30-35, *anya0488 writes:

i am 18 years old i know i am in love i have been with this guy for a little more than a year and i knew him before we start dating anyways he always says i love you to me but never ever wants to take me anywhere no movies,NOTHING why we argue sometimes but thats it. i do not understand why he does not wanna go anywhere do anything with me and are sex life is also getting boring im sick of it what can i do or whats happing with are relationship

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A female reader, nicola79 United Kingdom +, writes (23 May 2007):

nicola79 agony auntit sounds to me like you both are skuck in a rut. just talk to him and explain that you need to go out together even if its just a walk in the park,or if you have a beach near by?

you are still young and you dont want to be putting up with this,so say something.

your sex life needs to be talked about aswell,even though its not the be all end all. you try and spice it up abit, try something from the norm. you come on to him and im sure he will be happy.

the main point im trying to make is talk to eachother,as he may think that everything is ok between you.

i hope it works out for you.xxxxxxxxxx

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A male reader, Frank B Kermit Canada +, writes (23 May 2007):

Frank B Kermit agony auntYour boyfriend might just lack some imagination. He needs some rules to follow so that he will learn to be more creative and you can enjoy the surprise. Try this: Tell him that once a week, you need him to take you out and surprise you. This week is a coffee house, next week is mini put, the week after is bowling, the week after that is darts in a bar, week after that is a museam...it is best to keep whatever the event is cheap or free. Give him a list of ideas just to start him off: pinic in the park, dancing at night in a gazebo, feeding ducks at the water pond, taking one free trail dance class of salsa, watching puppet show at childs reading in library, check out a street festival, going to garage sales on Sat morning, all these things cost little to no money. You tell him the list, and he must surprise you with the pic of the week. If he came from a strict upbringing, going out like this is going to be a challenge for him.

As for your sex life, make one of the places you go visit for fun a sex shop. Lots of ideas to try there. In fact, ask him to take you there in the next couple of weeks, and see what happens.

-FBK

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A female reader, luckygirl84 United States +, writes (23 May 2007):

luckygirl84 agony auntI suggest you tell him how you feel about this. He might be one of those boyfriends who just like to be home more then usual. Or he might not be able to afford taking you out to the movies or dinner. Whats happening is that you are losing some interest in him. You might need to try to spice up your sex life and if that does not work and he does not respond to your needs then you might have to let him go and move on.

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