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writes:okay i don't really know where to begin, but i met this guy 3 months ago, and after talking for a few months, we decided to be Fwb( this was mid Feb) we have seen each other once since we agreed to be fwb although we have not actually had any sexual contact yet coz he was Sik the weekends he was up so we could only talk in he breaks. (we live 2 hrs apart and he works 7 days a week(weekends in a band) .well 2 weeks ago i sent him an email of my boobs, well im seeing him this weekend when theyes play in my town, so should i ask him to delete the photos, or should i trust he won't show anyone? i don't think he'd show anyone, but i wouldn't have sent them had i been sober at the time.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 April 2012):
 It's just boobs. Don't send pictures like that again, but don't let this kill your mood either. You didn't show your face in them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2012): Realistically, there's no point asking. If he's on your page he'll keep them to himself. If he's not, he may tell you he's deleted them and not do so.
Most women have boobs. So why even bother caring if they are on the internet already?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2012): you are already on youtube or the internet. Idiot. Remember whatever you put out there you will never be able to get back. Don't be suprised if they start floating about in demotivational posters "things idot girls do" geez how many times do people have to be told about this stuff? its not like you are a child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni didn't show my face in the pics. and we have been msging / emailing like 7 times a day since December. as well s talking on Facebook. i defense would not have sent the photos id been sober at the time tho.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2012): It could be seen as breach of privacy under Austrailian Law but moreover would be more of a case of Civil Liability as INVASION Of privacy as it would be the world wide web and it was intended only for personal use.
You did forward such an image of your own accord which indicates consent
That there may be two separate photos that indicate separate occasions and times- would also indicate harmful and dishonest, unlawful intent.
Such Cyber Crimes, as they are deemed, are on the rise and most Countries have precedent cases that were filed and won by such victims- therefore, do you honestly think it would be wise to do such a thing?
Do the crime, suffer the jailtime.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2012): IF you are going to send such images, crop out your face and photoshop out any identifyers as tattooes, birth marks, scars.
I know some voyeurs need this form of self expresion.
As far as boobs goes- there are plenty on the net so really who is going to know said boobs are yours?
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (2 April 2012):
Well unfortunately if he is the sort of guy that might pass your photos on then asking or telling will probably make it worse. You gave the photos to him so I think he has a right to do what he wants unless you explicitly made it clear they were for his personal use only.
Learn from this before you do something much worse next time you are drinking.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (2 April 2012):
 I'm with Cerberus on this one. What's done is done. Best thing to do is to end contact with him, since both FWB AND sending nude pictures are poor judgment.
Just learn the lessons, move on with your life, and hopefully you'll disappear from his memory.
My view on sending naked pictures is....don't send pictures of yourself unless the way you're dressed in them you'd be fine if you were dressed in that in a crowded shopping mall. Before dropping clothing, think..."Could I walk through a mall wearing what I'm about to take a picture and send off to him?"
The internet is PUBLIC. Before hitting send, repeat three times "Grand Central Station".
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2012): Honeypie is wrong unfortunately even if you don't show your face in the pics all he has to do is put a normal picture of you beside that picture and ruin you that way if he wanted.
You can ask him to delete them if you and he may delete them.
As for showing others he probably already has, I would and I've seen all the naked pictures of girls my friends have gotten except ones of their long term girlfriends which you're not.
They're out there, there is nothing you can do, he doesn't even know you that well and definitely doesn't care enough not to show them to people, you can only hope that he has high enough morals to respect your privacy. Because if he doesn't he won't delete them no matter what he says.
OP never send pictures to guys that you wouldn't mind the world seeing because if you do, you give them far too much power over you. Girls have had their lives destroyed by pictures like that and have committed suicide that was by ex-boyfriends and stuff, you only know this guy a few months.
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reader, eek  +, writes (2 April 2012):
 most people dont share private photos if your fwb let him enjoy them and relax. All is ok. :-)
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reader, chigirl +, writes (2 April 2012):
Ask him to delete the pictures when you meet him and can actually see with your own eyes that he is deleting them. Then don't send nude pictures in the future because most guys DO share the pictures. Many even put them online to brag about "look what I get women to send to me".
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (2 April 2012):
 You can ask him to delete them but I guess you will JUST have to trust he won't "share" them with others and, in the future don't send naked pictures you just never know where they might end up.
If your face isn't in the picture I wouldn't worry too much. It's just boobs.
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