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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi there,I wanted people's advice. I have been involved with a married man for about 4 years on and off, though we haven't had sex for 2. We get on so well, and have recently got back in contact again after a break.We get on so well, and we are both able to talk to each other about anything from everyday stuff to sex. We have spoken a few times about feelings, as we both have feelings for the other but he says that he will not leave his wife and I have accepted that and tried to be just friends. We cannot just be friends, as he admitted he has strong feelings for me and can seeing us having a relationship if he leaves his wife therefore he doesn't want us to sleep together as he doesn't want to lead me on. However, he has told me that things are not good with his wife and whilst he will try everything to make his marriage work, he is not sure he will and he would want to try and make things work with me if they split up.I just wanted people's advice, as I have a partner of over 8 years and love him very much. We started the affair when things were not good between us, eventually resulting in us splitting temporarily but we got back together and are now very happy. However, I have strong feelings for the married man and am so confused about it. He seems to be very honest and up front, but I just don't know what to do.Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): Hi,
I am the original poster of this and I wanted to say thanks to you both for your advice. I have since cut off all contact with the married man in question, and had a very frank discussion with my partner. We clearly have our problems, but I have been honest and whilst it has caused much pain we have decided to give it a go as there is real love there and we both see our futures with each other. Thank you so much.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 September 2010):
You just don't love your boyfriend, and like so many other mistresses, you're allowing yourself to be used by a married man.
Leave your boyfriend. He does deserve someone who isn't cheating on him.
As for the married man, I don't understand why you'd want to be his bit on the side. Stop seeing him too and cut contact.
The time has come for you to face the world alone and live your own life. You're not ready to settle, and you have a lot to learn about men and life before you are. The married man is a liar. How can be be honest if he's cheating? And your boyfriend's not the one. You wouldn't be cheating if he was.
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