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writes:My ex boyfriend and I broke up a little over a month ago. We had been dating a little over a year. The reason we broke up is I would start arguments with him and I admit I was a little too pushy. When we were together, we did have a lot of fun and really enjoyed each others' company despite the frequent arguments. When he broke up with me, he said he loves having me around, but that I made it impossible because of my behavior. ( He even said, "You suck, you know that? I love you, and you ruined it.") He says he still wants me in his life, and still calls and emails me a few times a week. But, he also says we probably not getting back together, because he doesn't trust me right now and isn't sure if he can trust me as his girlfriend again. He admits he's still in love with me and still thinks of me very fondly. I love this man very much, but I also know I broke his heart. Should I try and regain his trust to see if we can get back together? I am willing to change whatever behavior I have to in order to win back his love. I'm giving him space right now so we can both clear our heads. I'm so in love with him, what should I do? Do you think I can get him back? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 September 2010):
 I personally think that if you were being to pushy and argumentative then obviously something was'nt quite right in your relationship that was of your expectations, take time out away from you ex partner to work out for yourself what these issues were and how you can resolve them, you need to be able to do this alone and then hopefully there is a future with the both of you, as it sounds like the both of you are head over heels with each other. After some time apart (maybe 3 -4 weeks) tell your partner that you know what you need to do to change and if you have discovered anything that he may need to change be honest with him. It sounds like you may have a little low self asteem so work on being happy with yourself as an individual then you will find yourself happy as part of a couple but make sure that if you do get back together that you do fun stuff apart as well as together. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): If this is true as you represent it, then got to counseling on relationships.
Be frank, graphic, and open with the counselor, about everything, childhood, relationships, sex, etc, etc, etc.
Let him know that because of what you did (assuming you did what you say you did) are going to counseling, and that you appreciate what he said about your behavior, and that you are going to try to figure out why you do this so you won't mess up the next relationship you have.
Don't do it and say you are hoping that you get back together...that will happen if it is wanted by both of you, but counseling may help you figure this out in a way that makes you a lot happier in the future.
Be friends.
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