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writes:i like this man okay but it is a secret love. okay so we are seeing each other it is a secret relationship we have only been seeing each other for about 2 months but i think it will work .i need your help in how i should tell my parents and my friends!okay so we are a item and nothing can change that but there is a twist,i am pregnant and we have decided to keep this baby.do you think my family will support me?will they understand?will his family understand?will the age gap matter?10 year age difference Reply to this Question
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reader, soon567  +, writes (29 November 2010):
If you need to hide it than its wrong, furthermore you need to tell them so all of you may get to know each other. Item, ok I think it'll be to hard for a parent to turn there back on their own child so go ahead and introduce your bf or lover (whatever) he's to you. If it was me I would be more upset that you hide this from me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): I'm sure it will come as a suprise and they might not be too thrilled to begin with. Seeing as they didn't even know you're in a relationshp you're going to have to break it to them gently.
I can't tell you whether they'll support you because i don't know your parents but if you have a pretty good relationship with them already they will probably be supportive. Just be a bit understanding if they aren't too happy about it at first because it will be a lot to take in.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (12 November 2010):
 They may or may not support you, financially your partner should be supporting you and this unborn child. If he's older and no prior children that he is aware of then, I'm sure his parents may be rather excited. It just all depends whether your parents approve of this relationship or not, if they don't then you may not get the support you're looking for.
The big age gap really doesn't make difference as long as you both are in a mature state of mind and are ready to tackle the task of being new parents.
I would tell your family as soon as possible about the pregnancy, preferably before you to start to show, then the gig is up. Just tell them over dinner, or have him come over so you two can explain together and he can be there for moral support.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave +, writes (12 November 2010):
you've been seeing each other for about two months and you're already pregnant? have you not heard of contraception?
it sounds like you have jumped in feet first and landed yourself in an unexpected situation that you have to deal with.
you barely know this guy, yet you "think" it will work. is that now because you're pregnant?
you've obviously made your decision and committed yourself to it
in terms of telling your parents, I agree with what Ampersand suggests and what the possible reactions may be.
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