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writes:right, this is a really long story and im in dire need of help so please bare with me =) ok, here goes. . . all through highschool i was best mates with 2 amazing girls, jade and leah. in the last two years we had a fairly huge argument and what jade did was unforgivable so myself and leah stopped being friends with her (childish maybe but thats highschool for ya!) so anyway, me and leah were the best of friends, we lived in each others pockets and did everything together and it was GREAT! we went to the same college, same uni. half way through our first year at uni we had a huge argument about something or nothing, and she didnt turn up for the next days lesson. i rang her loads, and she never answered. she never came back to uni, and never spoke to me again! i was much too stubourn to try and ring her etc (my own fault) though the argument wasnt anyones fault. its been two years since then anyway, recently i was moving home and found a box of old photos and letters that really took me back. iv missed her all that time, but seeing those really upset me and made me realise how much i want her back. she added me a year ago on facebook, but never said anything. and it turns out her and jade are the best of mates again. i really wanna get in touch, but i dont know what to say or how to go about rekindeling our friendship. and to be quite honest, im a little scared of rejection =( its sad i know, but i need some ideas or help of how to go about this ... by the fact im on this site it shows im in desparate need of help thanks guys =)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (22 May 2010):
 Alright, you want tips on how to approach this... Well you could try sending your old friend a message on facebook saying "hi, how are you doing?", that shows some interest without being too eager. Then hopefully she replies and you can say "I was thinking about you the other day, and the three of us back in the days". Start up a conversation that isn't too serious, while letting her/them know that you are thinking about them and that you dont hold any grudges.
Or, if you want to do it stealth wise, figure out where they go often and accidentally run into them, or one of them. When you talk to them, be sincere!
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reader, dragonfire  +, writes (22 May 2010):
 Your not desperate. Your lost something of value that not easily found these days. If she added you that means she's at least willing to talk but maybe they waiting on you to talk first. People on facebook do that. They will add you and never say anything if you dont say something first. So I agree with Chi girl and take a shot. You say you hate rejection but which or worse. being rejected or reuniting with you 2 best friends. We all do or did stuff when we were younger that we regret but it when your older that you realize how stupid that stuff was back then.
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reader, lexleburger +, writes (22 May 2010):
lexleburger is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni do want to try, i just dont know how to go about it!
i.e. just randomly email her with general chit chat
or mention the photos and letters.
im really unsure of what to say
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reader, chigirl +, writes (22 May 2010):
Take a shot at it and give it some time. They might not include you again right away but in time.
The worst that happens is that they don't wan to be friends, right? And as of this moment you aren't friends, so it's not like you have anything to loose. It's not pathetic to try and make up and be friends. You miss them. That is an honest feeling.
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