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writes:i'm 4 months pregnant with my 2nd baby(planned), me and my fiance are both over the moon. I'm very excited and feel very blessed to be carrying our second child. I love being a mummy to be 10 month old little boy. He's my whole world and I love him so much, I can't wait to share that love with his new brother or siser.But the problem is i'm a recovered anorexic. I've been ok for a couple of years now. But it's something thats always in the back of my head. Weight and food are always an issue. Especialy now. Before I became pregnant with my son I was quite petite - about 7 and a half stone. Before that i'd never been over 8 and a half stone in my life. But obviously during the pregnany i gained weight...3 and a half stone. even now ten months after having him i still havn't lost alot of it. I'm currently 9 stone. even though i know i'm not overweight, because i'm bigger then i'm used to being i feel quite depressed aboit it. And now i'm pregnant again i'm terrified i'l put on that much again and end up being 10/11 stone after the birth...the thought of that fills my terror and I'm frightened that i'd end up relapsing and becoming obsessed with dieting and weight again...What can i do? please help, i'm really scared.
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents  +, writes (12 September 2009):
 If you are anorexic, remember to not trust mirrors! Go by scales and measuring tapes. You are already aware that what YOU see in the mirror is distorted, right? Good luck on your quest to be fit and healthy mother! And don't forget that fit and healthy does not mean taking up as little space as possible in the world. Muscle weight is a very good thing. It keeps you strong and keeps your metabolism high!
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (12 September 2009):
 Pregnancy is a good time to tackle eating disorders because you have someone else to motivate behavioural change. Ask your GP to refer you to the cognitive behavioural therapy service in your local area - this type of intervention is effective at maintaining healthy behaviours in former eating disordered patients. Pregnancy can be a time of particular stress for people with a history of eating disorders and you should speak to your midwife about how you feel. Congratulations on your pregnancy!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (12 September 2009):
 Well, if you are this concerned, what I would recommend is nipping things in the bud and start going to a counselor now. Share your fears and while you go through the next year you can have help staying on track and focused on the joy of your children, the pride in giving birth to them and staying healthy, and having the willpower to not become obsessive over your weight and diet.Congratulations on the new baby!! Good luck, sweetness.
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (12 September 2009):
 Get some professional help if you are that scared. Not eating is depriving your baby of food and you will starve him/her. Think when you are eating you are not just feeding you but him/her as well. After you give birth you can go to the gym to lose the extra pounds. For now your only focus should be the safety and care of your unborn baby and your 10 month old.Good Luck!
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