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writes:I am in love with a boy from my school but he has a girlfriend but i know he likes me because he flirts with me all the time and i did something i really regret - I sent rude pictures of myself to him and lately he has just fell out with me. i really love him but it hurts and i dont want his gf to be hurt. what can i do plz help me x i need your help
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (24 January 2011):
 Well there is not a lot you can do - you have made a bit of a fool of yourself and of course he is not going to want to speak to you, you will have gotten him in trouble with his girlfriend if she saw them, or he will just think you are a bit of a crazy stalker!
You have 2 options:
1. Leave him alone and just accept that you have blown your chances of being his friend. He has a girlfriend and never wanted to date you, but you didnt accept this and took it one step too far. So really there is not a lot you can do to fix this - so leaving him alone would be a good idea.
2. Alternatively - send him a message (either through facebook or text etc) and apologise for your actions. Say something like this "I am really sorry for sending you those pictures, I know it was very wrong and I really regret it. I hope it has not caused any problems with you and your girlfriend and I hope one day we can be friends again".
But you have to be aware - as much as you love this guy HE DOES NOT WANT YOU. If he loved you too - he would have left his girlfriend for you. But he has not left her, so clearly he loves her and not you, and the only reason he will have been flirting is because it was a bit of harmless fun. But now he has seen this side to you where you send rude pics, he has realised you feel more for him than he does for you hence he has stopped talking to you to make sure you back off.
As much as loving someone hurts when you cant be with them, eventually with time that pain fades away and you will move on. It will be good for you to not speak to him to be honest - the more distance you have the quicker you will get over him.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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