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writes:So me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 1/2 years about now and for the most part everything is perfect, we love each other to death, we plan on buying a house soon together and I plan on proposing within the next 6 months. Theres just one little hitch in the road that is kinda bothering me. These last few weeks she seems to be spending way more time with her friends than me. I have no problem with her being with her friends because i work nights and cant see her except for the weekends usually but a couple days ago she went out with her friends to celebrate her last day of school for the year. They went out to dinner and had some drinks but my girlfriend had way to much and got really drunk and ended up passing out at her friends house. They took care of her she is totally fine but she was supposed to work today, she couldnt because she was sick from the night out, she ended up coming to my house after attempting to work where i did everything i could to make her feel better. We ended up taking a nap together because i had just gotten home from work when she was getting to my house. She left and went home later in the evening feeling a little bit better. Then later at work i called her on my break and she said that the girl that covered for her at work now needs her to cover her shift the next day, the day where my girlfriend was supposed to be spending the whole day with me for the first time in like 2 weeks. Now my girlfriend has to work instead of seeing me. I am pretty upset about this because every minute i get to spend with her is more precious than anything to me, and she kinda did the same thing last weekend when we were supposed to go to a bar, she worked taht day and we ended up goin to dinner and back to her place where she ended up falling asleep in my lap. I feel dissapointed because it makes me feel like she would rather be with other people than me, I know she loves me just as much as i love her, I dont know if I should be mad or just bummed out or what. We talked about it a little bit and all i told her was i was bummed that we couldnt hang out, and that I wanted her to try to spend some more time with me because i rarely get to actually spend time with her. I am really confused because i cant stay mad at her but i feel like i should say something.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 May 2012):
 She went out and got drunk and now she has to cover her shift, it is as simple as that! I know it must be hard for you when you barely get to see her as it is. But I guess she just cannot get out off working now. At least she went to see you the day she took of work and didn't ignore you completely. If I am honest I think the only problem in the relationship at the moment is that you both just do not have enough spare time to spend together, and yes that can put pressure on both of you, but please don't set all the blame on her, because am sure if you were sick and then had to work the next day instead you would just do it.
I know it can be hard, and if you are feeling mad with her, then yes I think you need to tell her, be honest with her about how you feel because it will only build up inside you if you don't mention it to her. Give her a chance to make it up to you. Good luck.
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