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writes:My fiancée and I are going to get married soon. He like proposed to me a week ago when we were in my favourite restaurant, it was really sweet and I wasn't really expecting it because he had managed to push the ring inside the ice cream so when I was eating it I nearly swallowed it in the process. After I'd nearly choked and been rescued by a big bloke who was the manager I decided to not go there again -it was so embarrassing but as I said before was really sweet. I'm delighted and I’m more in love with him then ever and I’m glad that he chose me to be the person he wants to spend the rest of his life with but ... there's this thing that is really bothering me. He has been kind of distant this week - don't even know if he knows I’m even there sometimes and I whenever we have gone out to the supermarket or whatever he always s flirting with these girls that are complete strangers in front of me and don't even realise that I’m his fiance and not his sister like he says I am. I don't know why, he never even gives a woman a second glance when his with me so why now? Does he maybe realize that it's his last chance of bachelorhood or something? I'm confused, he seemed so happy when he accepted his proposal and I was too - as I said before it was so unexpected - we'd only been going out for a couple of months but it feels longer to me because I want time to stand still when I’m with him.He always apologises later saying that it was a little experiment to see how many women still find him attractive. It's ridiculous, I’ve told him that I don't like him doing that and it makes me feel as if he isn't serious about me. Sorry if I’m going on a bit but I’m seriously confused a little unhappy and that moment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): I think you are right about the bachelorhood thing - you need to nip it in the bud, what will he be like when you are married!
I'm also wondering if he has changed or whether since the proposal you have just been taking in his actions more as it is now in your best interests that he stays faithful to you? Would that be a reasonable suggestion?
Either way, whenever this flirting has occurred, its not right and the only way to stop it would be to embarrass him. Next time he tells someone your his sister, tell them you are not, next time he is flirting ask him there and then what he is playing at, he will soon get the general idea and so will the girls. Fight fire with fire. I just hope that after only a few months you know him well enough for marriage.... take everything in, his true colours are showing now he has you as a security net. x
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reader, Miss-Blonde +, writes (4 March 2008):
He's probably just making the most of it before he ties the not. Ask him to stop doing it..
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): He sounds horribly insecure to me and in need of an ego boost constantly. Trouble is I don't think you are going to be the one that will satisfy it. In fact don't take it personally as no one woman would. You have to decide if a man who needs to test out his attractive ratings with other random women is really ready for the emotional commitment of marriage? Something tells me warning bells rather than wedding bells.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (4 March 2008):
 Hi
Could just be a confidence boost for him. But if it were me, i would hold off on the engagement bit for now. Its a bit too soon no? Maybe he's one of those real impulsive people at the end of the day. But that doesnt mean getting engaged after 2 months is a wise move. Maybe thats dawned on him and he's panicking a bit?
Its rude to be flirting with women, especially in front of you.
C xxxxxx
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