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writes:I'm in a real big mess and don't know what to do. I'm pregnant and I told who I thought to be the babys father. He didn't want to know which was fine, I didnt expect him to but after going to the doctors I've found out i may be further on than i first thought. So I've been trying to work the dates out and I don't think its his baby, I think it was another lads who I was going out with for a while. He turned out to be violent so I wouldn't want him to know anyway. I just want to bring up my baby well on my own but I'm terrified its going to be obvious its not this lads baby who I first said it was.Do babys resemble their dads so much its obvious?I'm not a slut or anything I was just going out with this lad who turned out to be violent and it was my ex who I've known for years who got me out of it and I ended up seeing him for a while.I was so sure it was his but know I really don't know and I'm scared and not enjoying been pregnant anymore.will everyone be able to tell the father isn't who I said it was or can i live in peace??plsssss helpp
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reader, lovinglyhoney +, writes (8 June 2006):
hey chick,i agree with the other aunts, no-one will think your a slut simply for the fact that you aren't.try not to be gettin too stressed out cos its not good for you or the baby, and you are entitled to your privacy... if that means the person you told was the father will be wondering, then let him! he told you he didnt want to know so what right has he got to question you!keep your chin up and keep smiling - you're going to have a beautiful baby and it will all work out fine in the end xxxxxxxxxx
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reader, Smiler +, writes (27 May 2006):
 Hey there
i completely agree with everything that phoebe has just written to you sweetie, as she quite rightly said pregnancy is no picnic at the best of times but there is a good side to having a baby the scans the kicks etc the knowledge that your carrying a whole new little person inside of you and you should not be fretting the whole time who the child looks or does not look like and the end of the day your baby will be lovely and beautiful and a complete an utter joy there is no other experoence better in this world than being and becoming a mom for you its hard right now because your stressed out and worrying about this whole father issue... which is a completely private matter anyway. if you have your family's full help and support you just concentrate on enjoying your pregnancy and stop worrying ok.... i hope this helps you out a little ok and noone thinks your a slut ok.... relax and enjoy...
You Take Care X
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (27 May 2006):
 Dear Reader,
You have a right to your privacy. If you don't want to tell everyone who the real father is, it's your choice. And I don't think anyone reading this thinks you are a slut in any way, shape or form possible.
There is no need to be scared. Raising a child on your own can be scary, but I'm sure you have a loving and supporting family that can help you every step of the way. Being pregnant is no picnic, but when you have that beautiful baby and look into it's eyes you'll see it was worht every sacrifice and every one of those cravings, or days of morning sickness!
Some babies resemble their dads and some don't, it's a 50/50 chance. But the way I look at it is, you baby will seem beautiful to you, no matter what people see or say. There is a special maternal bond there that goes deeper than looks. When you have your baby, and please do, it won't matter who the daddy is because he's/she's your baby and you can't love them more. Who knows, you could meet Mr Right any time now, so keep your chin up, your head held high and don't be ashamed of how your baby was made. Be Proud that it's Your baby.
I'm sure you'll be a fantastic Mum!
Good Luck, All The Best and Blessed Be,
(we all have faith in you!)
Phoebe
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2006): Please go to a doctor to find out how far along you actually are. Then try to see if you can honestly figure out who were sleeping with at the time. If it is a case where you are still not sure, it's time for you to be honest with both partners. Let each of them know that there is a 50% chance that he may be the father. Make sure that you are getting proper health care and if you have a really good and reliable friend please confide in him/her so you will have someone there for you. Keep praying and have a little faith. It will all work out. Do not make any hasty decisions but please go to your doctor as soon as possible. The fact is that you need to know the truth and deception should never be an option. Take care and all the best
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