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36-40,
*bschik14
writes:My fiance and I have been together for 2yrs. We have a 1 yr old daughter and one that will be here in 2wks and I just found text messages in his phone to another girl saying that he still wants to be with her and that he wants to do what ever it takes to make her happy..i confronted him about it and he admitted that he had gone to school with her and her brother and ran into her and had been talking to her for 2wks and met her 2x's before work but he hasn't done anything with her except talk..he says he got scared and feels like he might be missing out on something but he says he knew if I found out I would be really hurt (so why did he do it if he knew it would hurt me)..he says he's sorry and knows he really messed up and he won't ever hurt me again but i'm having trouble getting past this. Should I stay with him and try and work it out or should we break up until I can get over this and he can figure out what it is he thinks he is missing out on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2011): It could be that he has a case of the grass is greener and is trying to avoid responsibility.
I'm sorry that he is not of better character and also more mature in outlook.
Talking and talking about a future is damaging and an affair of the mind.
This must be very painful for you.
I would suggest leaving immediately to go and stay with a sister, or close friend, so you can relax when you have the baby, don't make any decisions just go and get some peace.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2011): Well i hate to say it but i think if he feels he's missing out on something you should let him go because he will always feel that way. I have a one yr old and three week old and i've always told my bf, whom i've been together with for two years, that if he ever thinks he's missing out, just go. I already have trust issues so the last thing thing I want is for him to cheat. So the way i think of it is spare yourself anymore pain and let him go.
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