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writes:O.K I have been with my man for 5 years now, and we have 1 child together age 3. We also have another on the way. The problem is, he has not had a real job since he left the Military in 2006. He has worked 2 jobs since then, The first job he had left the job and moved back home with his mother in another state because we were having problems. After we settled our differences, he said that he was going to get a job back home and move me and our son out there. Well a whole year 1/2 went by and nothing happened. He got a job, but lost it about 1 month later. Anyway to make a long story short. I took my son to visit him in Sep of 2009 and he seemed very happy for us to come down. But once we got there it was a different story. I found out that he had been seeing other women and we had a big falling out about it. A few months later we decided to get back together and make it work. He apologized of course and made it seem like he really wanted to make a change. I fell for it and we got an apartment together. I am currently in school and am living off of my Montgomery GI Bill, and work online. I do fine and can pay all the bills, but that is the problem. I pay all the bills by myself. He says that he is int he process of getting disability, and he says that he cant work. He drives my car to the VA every day and gets travel pay. With his travel pay, he buys beer and black and milds. He goes over to his friends houses about twice during the week and the weekends. All of his friends are getting disability too. Now I'm pregnant again and I want to make this thing work, but I don't know if I'm able. I don't want to be a single mom with 2 kids either. What do I do??
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (10 February 2010):
You've asked him to change and forgiven him for cheating. Nothing has changed. He spends his time on beer and friends. You may not want to be a single mum, but in all honesty perhaps you'll be better off. You're more or less living your own life anyway. And he won't change.
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reader, rgreen120 +, writes (10 February 2010):
 This guy seems like he is taking the michael! Dont let him play you! I know you are scared of being a single mum, because that is never easy. But you need to have a serious chat with this guy! Make him see that you are not stupid! And you wont pay the bills for the both of you forever! He needs to get a job and man up ! He is about to have two children when will look up to him and you dont want any bad imfluences around them. I would talk to him, and try and get him to wake up and smell the coffee!
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