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writes:Im not sure who the father of my child is. My boyfriend and I had been having problems for quite sometime then last month I just couldn't take it anymore. I had met someone and one thing lead to another. We only had one encounter. Now I'm pregnant. What I'm having issues with is he wore a condom and my boyfriend never does. I realized I had made a mistake right after I left the guys house but I'm human I made a huge mistake now I dont know what to do. Any adivce would be helpful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2011): Hi, The only way is to get a DNA test, I dident know who my real dad was until I was 6, and don't call my mom a s***. When I was almost 6 I got a DNA test, and turns out my father wasent the guy we thought, the point is, you'll never know until you get a DNA test, and make sure you get it right away so the baby's father is comitted whereas mine wasn't.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (17 September 2011):
You're just going to have to have a DNA test done.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2011): avril april said, "if he truly loves you, he will have that baby as his."
If you think the BF would be a great guy to raise the other man's child as his own, I would agree.
If you think the BF should be expected do that or else he never really loved his GF, you're absolutely crazy.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (17 September 2011):
 Condoms aren't 100% effective. Only celibacy is.
A DNA test is the only sure way to determine responsibility. Either way, doesn't matter if it was your boyfriend or this one-shot guy.
I assume that since you say "boyfriend", you cheated on him and he doesn't know about it? Not good. I strongly advise against lying and making him think it's his if it's not.
Like I said - paternity test will determine everything. You also might want to think about your relationship with your boyfriend. If things are bad enough to cheat on him, why are you with him, and how would you feel if he had cheated on you and gotten another woman pregnant? You'd be devastated.
Time to unravel the truth and accept the consequences of your actions. Whoever the real father is, they need to accept financial responsibility for their child, and that won't change no matter how it got here.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (17 September 2011):
 If you don't use condoms with your boyfriend, it was bound to happen. Unless the condom broke or failed somehow, it pretty much has to be your boyfriend's.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2011): hi,
chances are, that baby might be his (the BF).. it is his decision whether or not to take the chance.. if he truly loves you, he will have that baby as his.. but if he doesn't then u already know the answer to your 'problems for quite sometime'..
but either way, give him some time to process it..
all the best..
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2011): I reckon you shall take a sample of your bf's semen and test it for DNA Parenting. If the result is positive then I hope you've learned a lesson, and I don't need to add anymore. I am not judging anyone.
In the unfortunate event your bf is not the father, then logically it is the one night stand's guy, and you then should inform the biological father, and come clean to your partner.
For the possibility of unprotected sex exposure it is strongly recommended that you get tested also for STIs panel and HIV. Testing shall take place 13 weeks after the potential exposure via ELISA or EIA tests when it comes to HIV.
Zee
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