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writes:2 weeks ago, I went to the hospital for my medical checkup. The medical nurse who took my blood sample approached me later and asked for my mobile number. To make it short, he told me that he was so disturbed by me the day I came to the hospital that he was obliged to take my mobile number. He felt something so strong. In a matter of 2 weeks, we became very close. He made me feel that I am the woman that he has been waiting. He really made me feel that to his eyes I mean everything. In the end, I started to believe in his words. He was very excited to meet me and we met. On the day we met, I felt that something was wrong. When I went home, he called me and he explained why he felt this way. What he told me has hurt me terribly. He said that unfortunately when he came to meet me, he did not feel this magic feeling he felt for me. For this reason, he knew that I was not the person he was looking for. He even said that he wanted to go back but he forced himself to stay. How can a person make you feel at the top of this world one minute and the next minute, you are nothing for him? I’ve been trying to figure this out but I just can’t understand this behavior. Please help me to see more clearly. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2012): Try not to take it personally, as funny it sounds, but that's the truth. He saw you , was attracted to you immediately, for whatever fantasy he had in his mind, and then when he saw you again the fantasy was gone...for him. You are still who you are but not in his head anymore.He didn't even give it a chance, something didn't click in him that night, but he didn't even give it a chance to go may be on 3 dates with you to see if he likes you as a person not just something superficial that I had something like that happened to me few years ago. I was taking a class with this guy, and because he was obviously younger than me, I kind of ignored him at first. But he insistently was flirting with me. Finally we had a ... Cant even call it a date...we jus went for a few minutes to the beach, and of course I was dressed down in my beach dress and flip flops. The minute I saw him, I knew he doesn't like me that night very much. Fantasy was gone for him. It was a lousy night. We hardly talked. Class was over so if he didn't call me I would never see him again.But few days later he called, asking to see me again. We went on 3 more dates, even had a fling, but now I was not impressed. So we went our separate ways. This is what it was for your guy: some fantasy that really didn't develop into anything. Good for you girl, at leastbu didn't waste your time.
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reader, HughHefner'sPlaymate  +, writes (2 July 2012):
 I know you're feeling badly but trust me its better he told you the truth instead of stringing you along. Playing games in hopes of sleeping with you and then dumping you. I really wish there were more guys like that who are truly honest.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (2 July 2012):
 Sometimes love at first sight is just what it is, loving at that moment for that moment's worth. The relationship between a medical profession and a patient can also be romanticized. When he sees you as a normal person everything changed, and you were not the idealized person he had in his imagination. Please don't take it personally. Maybe he doesn't even know what he's looking for. For me, I don't need a huge spark to put faith in the relationship. I would not give this man more attention. He is a dreamer and it's better that he lives in his head than to confuse more women.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (2 July 2012):
 Sounds to me like he liked the way you looked and hoped there would be chemistry.
you had one date and it was not there and he's not willing to waste your time or his.
he's a stand up guy... that's all there is to it.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 July 2012):
 Well it is simple really, he saw you at the hospital and he felt and attraction for you so he asked for your number and invited you out on a date because he liked you. However the date never worked out because he just never felt the spark between you both that he thought would be there, so he was honest with you. Really you should not read to much in to this, at the end of the day some dates work out and some don't.
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