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writes:Once someone has moved on will they ever come back? The reason I ask is me and a guy were seeing each other. There had been signs he'd like me for years but always said he didnt, and when we got together it seemed like everything was falling into place. He was incredibly shy with me and we were never in an official relationship, however afew months later it ended as this girl wanted him and he felt something for her. Even through all that he was hurt by what he did to me, and admitted hes always been afriad to get to close to me. They ended 5 months later, he went abroad for a while to work and then when he came home not to long after, he met his current gf. However he doesn't seem the person he once was. He used to be pleasent n respectable with values and beliefs, but with her thats all gone out the window. He never used to post stuff on facebook but now he is. He always made time for his friends and enjoyed his own life as well as one with a girl. But since day one they've been together everyday and when he does see his friends she is usually with him. He even stayed at a house she was looking after for two weeks. They've moved so fast so quick but seem incredibly happy. Theres a 5 year age gap by the way and shes only 17I take it hes completely moved on, but if there was once feelings that had been there years, will they ever come back or can they just completely disappear? Also will we even get him back as a friend? He doesn't seem the same person and everything thats happened has just left me in utter confusion. Please help.
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reader, Tom Obler  +, writes (14 September 2012):
 Hi,
I'm afraid you are caught in a "what if..." sort of situation. Your past had someone that could have been for you but things just didn't get together. They didn't happen but the mind keeps going back to it and hopes for another chance. Sadly, I believe that the chance has now faded or even gone. I'm afraid you are gonna have to let this memory go and move along. It's not easy, it's frustrating and feels you with a longing but you are going to have to let it go.
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reader, kellyO +, writes (14 September 2012):
 Hi,
I am afraid people change and people move on. i think deep down you know he has and I am afraid is time for you to do the same. Hey, i know it is hard believe me a lot of us have gone through this one time or the other in our lives. maybe is best to close out this chapter from you life and instead of trying to get him back as a friend you should hang out with other friends, go out enjoy yourself and i am pretty sure you will find someone else.
Hugs
Kelly
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2012): Honey, you seem to be trapped in the past, been there done that. Let it go, you are only going to prolong the pain and not allow yourself to love and be loved. He is not worth your time and heartache.
From what you have said he has moved on.
Move on and forget him.
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