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writes:Been involved with a man now for more than 3 yrs and just recently when he came over to see me asked if he could leave a change of clothes at my house and even asked me if would wash them for him.This something totally out of the blue because the whole entire time I have been dealing with him he has never done this before.I am not trying to read anything into this but why all of a sudden change the pattern? Could it be a possibility he wants something more serious and this is his way of saying so? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (4 May 2010):
 Here's a question for you. What would happen if you said, no, you can't leave your clothes here? No, I don't have time to do your laundry? What would he say?
I'm not suggesting you do that, but maybe an unexpected answer to him would catch him off guard and give you an opening to discuss his out-of-character request.
It's a bit odd that you've spent so much time together but you don't really communicate all that well. Friends with benefits are still friends, right? And aren't friends supposed to be able to talk to each other?
"George, I'm a bit surprised by this request. Does this indicate anything in particular? It's not something you've ever asked before and I wondered if it signaled some sort of change in our relationship."
What can it hurt to ask?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioneyeswideopen,
When you figure out the answer to that one please let me know.
I thought it very out of the blue myself especially up until know he always left with what he came in with.
Some people tell me he's trying to slip in inch by inch.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (4 May 2010):
 If it took you guys three years to reach the "will you wash my underwear stage" I think something's out of whack. What's the deal?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (4 May 2010):
Well if he can use you as a changing room and have you do his washing then he going to.
After 3 years, most men would have moved in and proposed... MINIMUM.
If this guy wanted something serious then he would have by now.
If you want a boyfriend then stop wasting your time on this one and move on.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2010): okay slightly different - but my brother does this ... he leaves a couple of items at my place so that when he stays over he doesn't have to worry about bringing a change of clothes etc. It could be just that ... him tired of having to remember to pack a bag to come see lovely you :)
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reader, dirtball +, writes (4 May 2010):
 Keeping a change of cloths at your house isn't odd at all, but asking you to wash them for him is a little bit. Most of my long term GF's have left stuff at my house, like pajamas, a couple sets of cloths to change into, toiletries...
I agree that more info is necessary in order to give a full perspective.
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reader, Ngyzee  +, writes (4 May 2010):
U hav'nt really given a full description of what ur relationship is like, if u're seriously involved, then it should be normal for him to leave a few clothes in your house. Maybe u cld tell more about u two.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAs far as what I want I would love to have something more serious with him.
The FWB thing is comparative with hooking up and typically doesn't go on for extended periods of time especially for years. These types of "relationships" are for the short term not long term.
I wouldn't know if there is somebody else. I see him just about every weekend and our relationship is just fine.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (4 May 2010):
 maybe he wants something serious OR maybe he wants a skivvy? you have to ask him to find out. if you have been involved for three years why have you two never considered moving in together? is he involved with someone else? are you just friends wiht benefits? what is the relationship like and what do you want from it?
to give you a decent outside perspective i'm going to need more details
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