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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi,I've been with my boyfriend for two years. We love each other very much. That's not my problem though. I get turned on by him but when it comes to sex, I do get turned on but it's very weird. It's not consistent. I've always thought some women are very sexy. I never would have a relationship with one though. I would probably just have sex with one and that's it. Does that mean I'm a lesbian? I really doubt it. Do you think it's because we are inexperienced with sex? I know with mastrubation that It takes me a long time to cum and he's getting a lot better with lasting longer. Last night I felt very close but, there's something unappealing about riding on a floppy dick for me. I haven't cum or orgasmed with him yet but, I'm being patient. I know it'll be worth the wait. I also stopped mastrubating for two weeks and due to stress and anxiety I do it every night. Could I have some built up passion and that made it hard for me to get turned on? Do you feel that I am a lesbian, bi, or just experimental with sex? I don't want to talk about the whole not cumming yet because like I said that will be coming soon since he's getting a lot better. Could me not cumming with him yet have something to do with me not really getting turned on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): Firstly i have to say most women actually do not orgasm during sexual intercourse. Is he your first sexual partner and you his first? If so maybe what your both doing is not exactly right just yet. In regards to this i think what you may need to do is reassure him when he is doing something right, so when your close let him know, tell him what you like and so he can carry on doing it. You should also have some foreplay before you actually engage in intercourse to make sure you are both turned on (him being erect and you being wet). Experiment with different positions until you find what you both like. Also i think it is good that you are being patient with him, it make a take a while for him to build up his stamina to last long enough, but you could always try oral sex instead and see how that works for you. You could try looking at some karma sutra books to get some tips.In regards to you being a lesbian, i think it normal for you to find other women attractive, but this does not mean you are a lesbian, I think you may just be at that stage in your life where your just a bit curious about things and want to experiment.I hope this has helped x
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