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writes:hi its a long story. i met a girl 2 years ago. i fell for her straight away, we where like soul mates. after a few months i asked her to marry me she said yes straight away. after a while i introduced her to my bro and his wife, they didnt like her. one night they came to my gf's house and i let them in, they wanted to phone for a taxi. they sat down. deb has pet rats, my bros gf picked one up then tried to kill it, deb took the rat off her and called her a cruel bitch. then a fight broke out. my friend got in first i was just a bit too slow. we finally got them out of the house. when we went to bed she was quiet for a while but just staring at my, i knew i was in trouble. then she said why did you let them in, why didnt you protect me then she turned away. she turned back and held my hand, when she let go she had put engagement ring in my hand. i was so upset i was speechless. a few months past and she still kept bringing this up all the time. then there was this guy in a club trying to persuade her to go out with him instead. he said have a night out with me i'll change your mind. one day she said to her son, her son loved me he kept calling me his dad. she said to him in front of me theres someone else after me should i leave berni and have him, he said no, she said but he has two dogs you like dogs and lots of money he can buy you things, he said yes marry him instead. that realy hurt me. when i was at my home at weekend with my son she took this guy up on his offer. next time i was at her house she was bragging about it saying he bought her drinks, bought her pizza then she stayed the night at his place but in spare bed. we finally got married, it was a great day, black wedding. things started to go down hill after then. she would argue all the time bringing what my bros wife done up and going on about how she could have had this guy. she said i should have broken her promise to marry me as she only done it because she promised.i play in a band and i went away for two weeks, i called her every day, one day she said i have a guy moved in its ok hes just a friend. when i got back i never saw this guy but in bed she was awkward, she would get undressed in another room, no good night kiss no cuddle. this went on too long and her having a go at me so i got up one night and went back to my own house. she had my bags packed 2 weeks later she is seeing this guy that was staying there. my bro told me his wife hit her because she was seeing people while i was away. i never forgave his wife for hitting her. now we are going through a divorce. it didnt even last a year.my other problem is i have a female friend, only a friend. i met her 6 months ago, she lived in next street from me with her bf. i was going to their house on night to talk and drink tea. she was a great help getting me over deb. one day her bf had to go into a mental hospital, he suffered manic depression. he asked me if i would look after his gf for him, i said yes. he was in two days, i got a call from my friend she said come round quick her bf has gone missing, so i went. later that night she got a call from the police. they found his body at bottom of clifs. she ended up in a mental hospital. i visited her for 5 weeks. i took her to the cliffs so she could throw flowers off. it was high and scary, she was suicidal. i thought she might jump. i got her back to the hospital. she is still in there now after 6 months. if i dont go and see her she does something stupid like cut her wrists. they let her out for a while, i got a call she said she has to go to the beach to get married. i didnt know what to do so i called cops, she got put back in hospital. she was found in the sea with her wedding dress on and carrying an urn. all that she does upsets me. i dont intend going out with her and she feels same but she realy upsets me. i have these strang feelings inside of me like i love her but not in love with her. if i am in love i cant allow it as she is still grieving and it would spoil our relationship. i also feel that i'm not over my wife yet and find it hard to move on, my friends say my new friend is holding me back, but i am all she has now, only i visit her. my life feels so confusing
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2007): I think you should take yourself out of your situation all together. Go on a vacation for a few weeks, have time just to yourself, to think about what you really need and want in your life. Without all these external pressures around you, you maybe able to sort your life out and make a decision and set yourself a goal.
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