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writes:So my mom bought a house in Washington state right near the beach and so she was telling me how there is a house for rent right next door, I decided to rent it out. I was going to pay the full rent which is $700 by myself, my sister who is 20 decided she wants to move too which I thought great, we can split the rent and it will be less on me. Everything was great up until this morning when my mom told me, my sister plans on having her boyfriend move in too and he "plans" on getting a job. First this was never discussed with me, that was the part that annoyed me the most like I have no say in the house that was originally supposed to be mine. Next is the fact that her boyfriend and her fight all the time, he smokes and drinks and has no life goals. The plan before this all was that it was just going to be her. Now I feel like I have to give up the house which I really dont want to but I do not want to live with her boyfriend too. I know it may sound like well if she is paying half the rent its her house as well, which it is but there should have been some ground rules established before it even came to this point.What can I do?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 April 2013):
 Exactly. Don't sign unless it's clear and officially accepted by all parties that you are signing for a boyfriend-free house. That SHOULD have been discussed with you in advance. That your sister pays half the rent does not give her the right to implant there a permanent house guest against your approval.
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reader, peanut_gallery +, writes (17 April 2013):
The fact that you didn't know this ahead of time is fishy to me. Why did you have to find this out from your mom and not directly from your sister? Why so late?
Keep things simple: If you can afford the $700 rent it, live your life and be happy. If not, you can find a roommate of your own choosing.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (17 April 2013):
 You need to talk to your sister before signing anything. Tell her either it's just her, or she can't move in. Either she agrees to do that or you don't let her on the lease, simple as that. Legally if her boyfriend isn't on the lease, he can't be there and you don't have to permit him to be on there. If she is going to do something so incredibly obnoxious as moving her boyfriend in without asking, you might need to play hardball. Try starting out by just talking, but don't sign anything unless you're 100% on the same page.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2013): You should be telling your sister directly your problem . Say that you want her to move in but not with her boyfriend. Simple.
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