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*ikiwe
writes:Hi guys....I remember duing my teens i had quite a personality....but as the years progressed that kinda changed.I went through a difficult phase as i approached my twenties.I lost my father and my family and i went through financial difficulties therefore had to delay going to college.This affected my self esteem bcos everytim my friens would ask me wot i was doing with my life i had nothing to say.This made me keep to myself.The other day my boss asked me why i was so stiff...(Im his PA BTW)..that i was afraid to talk to clients...and did't even want to make eye contact...So this made me think really hard....cos it's true..at times im so afraid to talk to people! It's like im scared of makin a mistake or cross anybody's path!...Ironically,when i'm home im so different! I talk so much that my mama even wants me to shut up!..I really want to work on this....guys please give me r input......thanks!
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reader, Nikiwe +, writes (21 August 2012):
Nikiwe is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for the input,i really appreciate your views.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (17 August 2012):
 It can be linked to anxiety and low self confidence.
Here is a good indepth article on how you can help yourself :)
http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2009/02/20/how-to-build-self-confidence/
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2012): I have had similar issues. It was kind of a self-perpetuating cycle for me: the more I worried about what I might say, the more hesitant I would become, the less likely I would be to jump in and contribute to conversation, etc. I found that once I just accepted the fact that I am a shy person, and that it is OK to be shy, and that in many contexts shyness does not have to be a negative or unnattractive trait - in fact, sometimes it is the opposite - I felt a burden being lifted from my shoulders and it became much more comfortable for me to dip my toes in the water and join in. Acknowledging to myself that of course I wouldn't be the funniest or most captivating person in some settings, that I tend to be shy, and that is OK, free'd me up to make mistakes, be awkward and laugh it off, etc. I try to remind myself that although I tend to be shy and somewhat reserved in some situations, I have a very unique voice and contribution, and that those who are close to me love me for it - I just have to let a little of that show, even when I might feel awkward doing so.Good luck!
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