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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now and lately things have changed. In the beginning it was all good of course then a couple months ago it started to seem like he always chose his friends before me, which I'm all for him having a social life but everytime, really? I always texted him, let him know i cared about him and tried to hangout (not excessively just as a normal person would do to someone they cared for) I never got it back. ex. I would ask to hangout next thusday and he'd say 'well I'm going to XX's house..' so i'd say ok so lets do something instead but he'd say no he already made a 'commitment' but going to someones house really isn't a commitment in my book. Any how, I slowly began shutting off and now I feel as if I'd given up on all the effort. the ironic part is, now all of the sudden he's always trying to hangout and always texting me saying how much he loves me and how special I am to him, you know all that stuff. I guess he saw I wasnt the same though so when he asked I told him I had given up. His response 'i'm glad we cleared this up so we can move on..' I was thinking WHAT? no, i just told him what the problem was, NOTHING was 'cleared' up yet!! And tonight, I changed settings on my facebook so I went on his account just to see how it showed up on my page but he had a few notifications so I was kinda wondering what it was about when it was all from a girl. I know it wasn't right to look but apparently this girl posted her status saying something to the effect of her being over someone and I saw my boyfriend wrote 'yay now you can talk to me.' and she wrote ok so text me with a heart. Obviously, I can't tell him I went on his account and saw that. I'm just so confused I don't know if I want to stay or go. I know everything seems good on the outside to everyone so I almost feel I'm supposed to stay... What's your oppinion on all this? Thanks so much for taking the time to read it :)
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reader, s143k  +, writes (14 June 2010):
 I had almost the same problem with my boyfriend about hanging out with his friends more and about the facebook
Well about the facebook I went to his account to check something in his msgs about an advertising and I saw msgs he was sending to girls he doesn't even know them so I talked to him and told him that I saw his msgs and I was so upset with him and he felt guilty about it and deleted all the girls from his fb account and he was sorry,, so my opinion tell him that you saw it cause its ok you have the right to see it you're his girlfriend and tell him that you saw it while you were checking your page, and my advice to you sit together talk to him and tell him about everything that's happening between you 2 try to work things out but if he did not listen and try his best to make things work and did not even felt guilty about the fb leave him cause you deserve some one better than him the important thing is how you are feeling in the relationship you don't have to be with someone and you are not comfortable or the other person don't treat you well or care about you and how you feel like you do to him, give him a chance and if it doesn't work its over but I really wish everything between you 2 works out ,good luck :)
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reader, Biola omoniyi  +, writes (14 June 2010):
 Stay wit him and try 2 get ur love back.
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reader, ceejam +, writes (14 June 2010):
 u should try to show him how much u care about him then if he continues like dat clear up wit him and live ur life
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