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41-50,
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writes:I am dating for over a year now a man who is still married but seperated from his ex for over a year. They have two children and she has not allowed him to see them for over a year until recently. She now texts and calls him (my boyfriend) and he responds. He pays every week money towards the kids and has never missed a week. The ex has told him that she has realized the kids need to see their father but than a week goes by and she texts him saying she doesn't trust him and she blames me (the girlfriend) for this. Well, he is now agreeing to paint some furniture for her so she can earn some extra income. She dropped off the furniture item to his work when he was working one night and of course I was not present. He than proceeds to paint the chair on our time at our home. He tells me she is the mother of his kids and he is going to help her out whenever he can. My feeling is that he is helping her out every week with the money he deposits into her checking account. Yet, she still will not let him see his children on a regular basis.As the girlfriend, I feel second best and disrespected. I am trying to be supportive and patient, but they text and talk behind my back and he tells me but i don't see the texts. He says he is with me and loves me, does not want her. He knows what he is doing and to trust him. The ex plays games and he falls for it by answering he stupid texts.What am I to do? I feel like leaving and if he really cares he would realize he can't please two women or should have two women in his life. there comes a point that the ex is going to have to get a real job and support herself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2010): Take my advice and run as far away as possible,this guy aint worth it
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 November 2010):
To be honest, this says a lot about your boyfriend. At no point has he gone to court and got his rights to see his children, he's doing a lot of secret texting, he plays her games and he seems to do a lot more for her than you.
This is a good reason never to get involved with someone who hasn't got it all sorted. And he hasn't. This is the way your relationship will be. She will always be there, and he will always go running. Can you live with that, or do you think you'd be better finding someone more set up in life?
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