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writes:my wife is pregnant by her lover I encouraged an open relationship, she now wants to move in with him, H e is black and big I am white and 5'5 inches tall. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): marriage is between 2 and not 3. by consenting to her having sex with someone else you opened a can of worms.
it doesn't matter what race her lover is.
next time, choose to be exclusive in your marriage. sadly this one is over - with your blessings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): I don't think there's any point chasing after her. He obviously does more for her in the bedroom than you do or she'd be getting herself an abortion by now.
Some people say that once you go black, you never go back.
There has to be an object lesson here somewhere. You didn't lose her - you gave her away.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 May 2009):
 Way too much spare time apparently.....
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (15 May 2009):
Well sucks to be you.
You might want to think about divorce, and next time to marry, pick a woman who actually wants to be with you.
Or don't marry if you want to shag about, then this won't happen.
Not sure why you mention your height. She married you so she must like your height. But you told her to go and find someone else and she did.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): you are very short - how do you find clothes to fit you?
so why have you posted? its a statement... not a question that you have made.
Are you pleased?, upset? how do you know the baby is his? But if she isn't interested then you have to walk away...
Star.x.
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reader, natasia +, writes (15 May 2009):
 So what's the problem? You haven't really explained what that is.
Do you not want her to go with this man? Do you feel humiliated that she wants to be with someone taller than you? Have you two got any children together?
To be honest, I imagine that if that's what she wants to do, that is what she will do. I'm sorry if this open relationship has gone wrong, but you both took a very very big risk in allowing it. I don't know if she wanted an open relationship and you just went along with it to keep her, but either way, she has now found someone else. I'm sorry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): First of all, how does your 'problem' relate to the biology of your wife's lover? He is dark skinned, you are pale skinned and that has what relation to your wife moving in with the lover? Since that 'fact' draws no benefiting factor to a possible solution, nor does it influence your issues with the fact your wife is pregnant by another man that you encouraged, we must then focus on the issue itself and not the excess that has no meaning.
Second, it's cause and effect. The Cause is your open relationship. The Effect is that now your wife has feelings for this other man and is pregnant from this other man. There is no clearer definition to what has happened. You have not made it clear what it is that you seek.
1) Do you seek aid in finding out a way to 'encourage' your wife to not move in with her lover?
2) Do you seek aid in finding out a way to detach yourself from this scenario?
3) Or do you simply not know what to do in this situation?
If it is #3, meditate on what YOU want, then proceed to do it.
Remember, good, bad and neutral consequence is a product of action and reaction. You are at a point where the consequence is at its climax. Therefore, what I suggest you do, is choose the path of least resistance that 'benefits' the 'greater good', rather than a personal ego.
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