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30-35,
crowley
writes:Hello, i am lost.My wife has just told me she no longer loves me after what i thought were 15 happy years together. This is a bolt out of the blue for me. We have 3 children,I cannot fight her on this because it only drives her further away, i have had no real reason for why 15 years of our lives is being thrown away. I am loosing my wife, my lover and my soulmate, shes taking our 3 children with her and we have to sell the family home, because neither of us can afford to go on living in it alone.I am really struggling, we are still living together atm, because of bills etc, until the house is sold, but i still love her, and i dont know how to cope with loosing everything that means anything to me.My wife and my children are my life. People say it will get better, it will get easier, but how? how do you make it to later when it hurts so much?How do you get answers to questions? how do you make a fresh start when you have no idea what broke in the first place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): I've been going through the same thing. I thought my wife and I had so much in common and loved each other for over 10 years of marriage. We have 2 kids together. A couple months ago she said she wasn't happy and wanted to seperate and it's been hell since. I have been at the lowest point in my life. I am trying to start over but it is very hard. Best of luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2007): Hey, Man i know the feeling tonight my wife just told me she is leaveing me and i can't stop her, i have no idea why she is leaveing all she can say is she isn't happy here anymore. I would love to chat with you more about options we both have or how we can both get through this. If you want post a message and i will check back tommorow. Or just email me at [e-mail blocked] and we can talk through there TTYL. Dustin
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reader, ambercich  +, writes (13 November 2007):
well maby shes just going through a hard time right now btu swoon her buy her flowers think of her all the time if somethign needs to be done do it like take out the garbage or do the laundry u know just to show her youll give her a little time to find her self andyou love her so...
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reader, hugs4u002  +, writes (12 November 2007):
I am so very sorry you are going through this, I cannot begin to imagine how difficult it must be for you. Can you give us more information on why she is unhappy or why she would want to live her life without you? Please take care of you during this difficult time and pull strength from the love your children have for you, it must be very difficult on them as well........
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): Are you not making enough money for her? I know this is shallow, but for a lot of women, it is important for the man of the family to be able to support the family. She may think she'll be better off with 1/2 of the home sale and child support on 3 kids than with you. You need to ask why she left, or give us some kind of idea what her issue is, or we don't know what to say to advise you. Sorry.
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reader, Cateyes + ♥, writes (12 November 2007):
 All what you have said are understandable, but what you haven't stated is why she feels this way or what brought this "all of a sudden" about. Did you talk with her and what was her reply? In order for me to feel as if I can give you any feed back, it would be great if you could tell us what or why brought this on. There has to be something that lead this on in order to feel this way. It's not about pointing fingers either, it's just trying to get to the nitty gritty of it all to answer best. Will you let me know?
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