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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My wife and I have been happily married for 4 years. No real fights everything is great. We have two beautiful girls together. In the past year and a half we have become extremely good friends with another married couple. My wife and the woman have developed a crush on each other. My wife and her think it would be fun if they made out while us the husbands had sex with them. They asy nothing other than making out. My wife says she has no interest in the husband and it would be better if it were the 3 of us. This obviously would never happen. Just interested in opinions.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (26 March 2013):
 My S/O and I have foursomes with friends of ours all the time. We call it "playing Bridge...."
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2013): Oh does this have trouble written all over it. If you wish to keep your marriage intact and your friendship intact don't even go there.
Why don't you just keep your intimate sex life private and just keep your friends, just that...friends.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 March 2013):
 as a person who's last marriage was RUINED due to being in the lifestyle (and a bisexual woman) I strongly caution you AGAINST this if you have any desire to keep your marriage intact.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2013): What is your opinion? You mention a crush as if it is a minor schoolgirl thing but here are two grown women, attracted to each other and wanting to embark on a sexual relationship together. My opinion is that it will all end in tears, probably yours.It sounds as if you are being invited to join in to `sweeten the pot` and once they take the stabilizers off this budding relationship, you probably wont get a look in anymore.And if you dont like it, you wont be able to say much because initially, you will have sanctioned it with your very presence! I think you are being manipulated. I would give the idea and your `friends` a very wide berth.I wouldnt be surprised if these people are in fact, seasoned swingers and once they have what they want, they will be off to pastures new, leaving the two of you in ruins. Dont be tempted. You have a happy marriage and children, be grateful for that and dont risk ruining it all for the sake of a cheap thrill. Sometimes `cheap thrills` can end up having a very high cost.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2013): Sounds like your wife wants to explore her bisexual side with your permission.
Understand that she does not want to risk losing her marriage in the event she finds she is more attracted to men. On the other hand this is a calculated risk on her path. Whats in it for you? Do you want to try this? Are you interested in having sex with this woman?
What does your values tell you? Are you open to a bisexual relationship? Can you still respect your wife, will you be comfortable to sit accross the friends after this and make small talk? Are you comfortable/secure that your wife will not continue a relationship with this friend without u knowing after this event?
Once you open this door, there is no closing it - pandoras box.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2013): Before you make any decision get all the information you can get from using google search.There are lots of pros and cons to this activity. And a lot of good information free. Is your wife a hidden bi? What your saying doesn't make a lot of sense. Your happily married and now your wife has got the hots for another women? Really? okay. I believe there is something else going on. But I am not a mind reader, I wish you the best. shouldn't the caption read my wife wants to go down on another woman and doesn't want the husbands around?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2013): Walk away from this. Try and make your wife see it's a crush nothing more and would cause unnecessary distress all round. Just because it's a woman doesn't make any difference. Am sure it will pass and perhaps just spend less time with this couple. Sometimes fantasies are best kept as just that
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