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writes:I need some help, I'm really low at the moment. I've got exams coming up and all I do is revise or work and when I'm not revising I just feel guilty for not doing it! I feel like I'm going crazy, I just wish I could relax like other people, who things always seem to work out for, even if they do no work. My relationship with my boyfriend is suffering. I'm taking it out on him and I don't really know why. Maybe I'm jealous because he doesn't have to do any of this, or maybe I'm mad because I feel he doesn't understand and never will. Whatever the reason, we're arguing about stuff, I'm so confused.I've thought about quitting but then I think what else will I do? This is all I've ever wanted, success and a good life, but it just seems like this torture is going on forever and, even though I'm closer to my dream than ever, it's all getting too much.Thanks for listening.
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (5 March 2006):
 I would say you feeling low is a direct result of you being worn down by everything.
Starting at the top you need to make an effort to sechedule in some relaxtion time for yourself. When you start feeling guilty you need to think about this: cramming to an excessive degree is proven to actually make revision less effective. By not taking time out you are actually moving in the opposite direction to that you intend and are likely to make you exams harder not easier.
Draw up a revision plan; with rest-breaks and tackle it that way. Structure your revision with an eye to quality away from quantitity. Obviously you still have alot to get through but make sure it is quality and not quantity that underpins the plan.
The other people *do not* do no work. In all liklihood they just structure things more so it appears like they do less or it is effortless for them.
With regard to things with your boyfriend I think you need to do two things;
a) tell him how you are feeling and explain that you have alot going on and ask for his support. Hopefully this understanding will mean you argue less.
b)if you can make sure you can spend some quality time together in one of your breaks. Hopefully this will help relax you both and remind you of the fun less stressed side to the relationship.
Hope that helps. Take care.
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