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writes:I have this teacher who I am completely head over heels for. He has been my history teacher twice, including this year. Just in four months, we've seemed to drift apart. Which is my fault, actually.I loved him so much that I was willing to distance myself from him. We used to be really close.Recently, i had this dream about him, where he wrote this note to me saying "Dear (my name), i love your free time. tell your sister i said hi. appetite."then this girl sitting next to me (in the dream, we were in his class), said "What did he write? He likes you." I told her that he didn't, and that she was completely mad.Regarding that whole "apptetite thing", i used to be anorexic. That was in my sophomore year, and he helped me through it. Well, now I think this teacher is starting to notice that we aren't as close as we used to be. He looks at me sadly when I leave class. I'm the first thing he looks at when he comes to the morning assembly. When we stand near each other, I see him moving towards me a bit, then backing away again. I'm a little curious. Why does he do that? Does that mean he likes me too?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008): i understand where your coming from,im also going through something similiar my teacher and are so close and people findit weird but i hate the fact that when other girls are close to him its alright to the world(i mean the know they like him 2!!)now im trying todo the same and stay away from him and since he knows i like him he tryes to do the same but i feel his body language and he cant ignore me when were in the same room(neither can i no lie)....so anyways imglad ur doing the right thing because im doing the same,just wanted to let you know ur not alone and if you need help just p.m me anytime.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI do regret it, but it's what's best. The reason I've distanced myself from him is because I think I could do better than him. So, i agree with you, LJ001.
For the record, i'm not anorexic anymore. I'm doing a lot better, eating healthy and exercising. It's just that i miss him and our little chats, it's just before, students used to think that we were a little too close. That's why i don't talk to him anymore.
Of course, what they thought was only half true. We used to flirt sometimes...i mean really flirt.
I don't understand as to why none of you listen to me. I've read possibly hundreds of posts of girls saying how much they fancy their teacher, and read too much into his actions. The mature thing to do is to back away, which is what I am doing. I know that i can't have him, but still his actions are a bit questioning.
If we're not on speaking terms, he'd know that something was up. He probably thinks i'm mad at him, that i'm dealing with something, or just too busy being it being my Junior year and all. The real story is that I am busy being it my Junior year, and I think it's best if we're not friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): Honey, you've got to drop this. You're a student, he's a teacher. Not only is the age gap undoubtedly crazy, but its against the laws in the sense that he's your teacher! It's a crush, it's nothing more.. No matter how much it feels like it could last forever. It'll end it tears, and I just don't want you to cause yourself more pain that you need to... I think its best if you just do your best to stop liking him - focus your attention on someone else maybe, forget about what you thought you guys could have had. I know it hurts.. But time will make it easier. Maybe he stopped being so close with you because he knows its impossible for you - he could lose his job, lose everything. You've got a long future ahead of you, with a million guys coming your way. Don't settle for second best. Wait, because there's someone out there meant for you, and it seems a little obvious to me that this teacher isnt him.. I wish you all the luck in the world oki honey, really, good luck.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (26 March 2008):
 My guess is that he is concerned about you and just hopes that you're healthy and doing well. I hope you're not still anorexic? Next time you see him, just tell him that you appreciate his help with your anorexia and that you're doing well, if that's the case. If you're having issues with it again, maybe you need to see your counsellor again?
All the best.
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