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*alfamoto
writes:I lied to her, I've tryed proving to her that she can trust me, but nothing has changed, infact its worsened, do I stay or go?I'm 11 months in, I've spent every day with her bar a few odd occasions. We barely ever argued however now it's everyday that something comes up. I confess, I lied to her face about not smoking cigarettes when I was, and she found up, that caused major problems. However that was about 2 months ago, and since then atleast every other day she tells me that she doesnt know if she still wants to be with me. The thing is i love her, and its messing me up when she says things like that. I've told her i'd never lie to her again, I've not touched a cig in the 2 months. But its just not the same. I don't feel like I can take her saying some of the things she says to me anymore. Part of me wants to end it, but a huge brain f**k is telling me that it would be the worst choice of my young adultish life.Please help me, I'm pretty lost at the moment.Many thanksJJ. Reply to this Question
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reader, halfamoto +, writes (30 March 2008):
halfamoto is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjust found out that she met up with her previous boyfriend of 1 year and a bit whilst we was going out. She let slip by accident. Unsure of what to do anymore. Am i just being a pussy? End it? gaaaaah help! thanks a bunch
JJ x
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (26 March 2008):
 Hi
Blimey you have managed to stay off the smokes for 2 months and are still getting it in the neck? I think she's being a bit hard on you to be honest, but obviously we dont know the full sp. Lying wasn't the best idea at the time, but most people know what smokings like! Its an addiction, and people lie a lot more where addictions are involved. Its not a biggie though is it? Not like some third party was involved?
You are gonna have to ask her if she can ever see herself trusting you again, realistically, because if not, there is little point in continuing really.
C xxxx
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