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writes:I'm confused and don't know what to do. My step-mom's brother likes me and i like him, but he is clingy My step-mom doesn't get along with her brother, and my dad hates her brother. My step-mom knows were talking to eachother and doesn't like it. Since we started talking he and his 2 wonderful kids have been hanging around my dads house. I tried to break it off once because someone i have liked for a while started talking to me and i felt like i was cheating. So i told him i wasn't ready for a realationship. The guy. that i've liked for a while though doesn't want a realationship, but i think i might be ok with that since i've liked him so long. So my step-mom's brother started talking to me again and he was being really sweet so when he said we could just take things slowly i said ok. Then i get a call from my step-mom saying that i need to break it off. She knew i tried to break it off the first time and why. Then we talked and she was saying that she just wanted her life to go back to normal. Since he has been around her mom is more concerned about him and not talking to her, which she cried to me over. So she called me and said that if i didn't tell him she would and she would also tell my dad, who would flip.Well i broke it off a second time within 1 week and feel crappy. I just turned 18 in August and he is 34 with 2 kids ages 4 and 6. When he came over to my dads 1 night after all this my step-mom was ticked. After he left she was just saying he needs to leave her and her family alone and go away. While i was still there i got a txt from him just saying whats up, and she flipped. She started threating to tell my dad aging and that he needs to stop. i tried to explain to her that he was just talikng to me as friends and it was ok, but she was still upset. I've told him that i need a couple days to think and i won't be going to my dads in that time period. I don't kno what to do. i don't know if i don't want a realationship or not for the right reasons, or if i broke it off because of my step-mom. One of the only people i can talk to is my cousin and she just laughed at me saying i had a lot of issues. I'm confused, i don't know if its ok to be seeing my step-moms brother or not, and i just don't know what to do. please help!!! I like them both a lot, and i don't want to hurt my dad or step-mom.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2009): To be honest, I personally don't think it's okay. You just turned 18, you have so much ahead of you. He already has two kids, he's 34, a grown man he wants to settle down. Though you may feel like this is what you want right now, down the road you may not. You're ending your teenage years prematurly. And though you may not think you're settling down, you will have to in order to take care of the kids, and what not.
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (22 January 2009):
 Yea, thats tough. I think I would move on. Maybe later on in the future if things get better with your step mom and her brother you guys can talk again if you wanted to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthats good advise but we have only been talking a week and i don't kno if i love him or not. i love his kids but i don't kno him well enough to kno. i feel bad.
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (21 January 2009):
Are you in love with this guy? If you are then maybe you have to consider trying to work something out with him despite your mom in law. But if its just liking him I think the answer is clear. You are better off parting ways, both as lovers and friends because there are too many other people to hurt over this. Like I said, if you LOVE him thats different.
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